Post # 1
Well, my boyfriend dumped me. You might ask ‘why?’
Because I tried shisha (flavoured tobacco).
I tried it one time. I didn’t even like it. And he flipped out when I told him and blocked me on everything, so I can’t contact him at all.
I honestly don’t know whether to laugh or cry. It’s such a trivial thing to end two years on. But there you go. I thought he was joking, but nope.
It’s not the first time he has blocked me on everything when he’s angry with me.
Just wanted to rant, I guess.
Post # 3
@OrchidsandCandles: Yikes, that’s a really extreme reaction to trying shisha. Is he highly averse to smoking/have some past history with it that would make him this sensitive?
It sounds like he’s fairly immature as well if his go to reaction when he’s angry is to block you.
I’m really sorry this happened, but it sounds like he’s got some growing up to do!
Post # 4
whoa. That is actually really messed up. And a really immature way to react in terms of the blocking and everything…so either he’s a total immature jerk, or he used the shisha as an out when he had other reasons. The only thing I can think of is that (or maybe he thought you meant hashish?…shisha in the US is more commonly called hookah/nargila even though that’s the name of the pipe actually….either way it’s stupid).
I say it’s high time to move on, especially if he’s done this in the past.
Post # 5
@OrchidsandCandles: wow! I am so sorry! that seems very childish of him. People get curious and try things. It’s not like your a secret crack addict! I can’t believe he would flip over something so trivial. If it bothered him, he should have just had a convo. with you about it. Do you think maybe he was looking for a reason to get out of the relationship?
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
Are you in a LDR?
I’m sorry but if someone is going to dump you over shisha, which is actually a CULTURAL type thing (are you arabic?) – you don’t want to be with this “calibre” of an individual.
You’re better off without him, but I have a feeling he’ll unblock you once he cools down.
Post # 7
Gonna have to agree with @KatNYC2011: , that is pretty immature and ridiculous on his part.
He owes you at least a conversation, that is the absolute least he can do.
Post # 8
@eagle: I agree with all of this. If he’s going to end a relationship for something so trivial, he needs to grow up.
Post # 9
This isn’t the first time he’s been completely childish and blocked you/hung up, I remember your ring conversation. I’m sorry that things turned out this way, but he sounds like a toddler rather than a grown man the way he handles himself when he gets angry. Controlling never worked for me in a relationship.
Post # 10
If someone freaks over something so small, their not worth you time.
Post # 11
WOAH. He sounds really immature. He’ll probably unblock you in a few hours or tomorrow, but I really think this is a huge warning sign for you. If he reacts this way about tobacco, who knows how he’ll react when something is actually a big deal. Yikes. Someone needs to grow up a bit..
Post # 12
I agree with PP about whether maybe he confused it with hashish?? I hate smoking and would never try anything, but would never end a relationship because of that either!!!
That’s really immature, but from your previous posts I can see you guys have had some other issues too, so maybe that’s his way out?
Post # 13
I’m sorry that happened to you! The other girls hit the nail on the head by saying that was immature. If he’s done the exact same before it sends up a little red flag to me. Even if he disagrees you don’t deserve to be treated that way. He should have at least talked to you about it. : (
Best of luck and keep your chin up!
Post # 14
I used to regularly smoke shisha pipes…I did a degree in Archaeology and spent alot of time in Egypt. I used to enjoy a pipe or two when I had a drink in the evening.
Even now I still have my own pipe… due to a lung disease (not caused by smoking, but undiagnosed pnuemonia) I can’t smoke anymore. But it looks pretty and unusual as a object d’art.
Is it possible, as another poster suggested, that he thinks you mean hashish
Post # 15
@KatNYC2011: Yup, his parents were (still are) heavy smokers, and he developed breathing difficulties from a young age as a result. Which he has recovered from now, but that’s like someone getting hurt from a pony and then forbidding their other half to ever touch a pony/ride one etc.
@bearlove: Nope, shisha. I think hashish is weed, which I would never try. Just flavoured tobacco, one time, whilst I was out with friends.
@strangewaysherewecome: I honestly don’t know. I thought he was happy. Maybe he wasn’t.
@eagle: Yup, he lives in TN, USA and I live in England.
Yea, maybe. But he hasn’t talked to me at all in two days and normally, if he was mad, he’d have unblocked me after a few hours. Which means this is probably definite.
My friends called him out on it, and he got defensive. Though why my friends’ opinions of him should affect OUR relationship, I don’t understand. I don’t let what people sayg about me affect ours..
Post # 16
He shouldn’t have acted out like that. Bit like previouscommenter said, is there maybe a reason. I know I wouldn’t be too happy/understanding If my Fiance did any sort of tobbacco/smokingbut that is only because I have Cystic Fibrosis and cannit be around any smoke.
But if he has no reason to act like that, I would just say cut your losses, do you really need to be with someone who is going to act like that?