(Closed) He ended it… Wow.

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 45
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4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree his reaction was over the top no doubt!  But I also wanted to touch on the “he should love me unconditionally part” which was a side thing.

Given the other instances he sounds realllly young, controlling, and childish.  Stonewalling (flat out blocking) is one of the “four horseman” that Dr. John Gottman says can predict divorce.

Check this out:

http://www.isoulseek.com/sitebranches/relationskills/articles/6signs.pdf
 

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

hmm…weird? Is there anything else going on that could have made him do this?

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My ex didn’t want me going to get a Master’s in Engineering.  Why?  Because it would inconvenience him immensely.  He’d have to start cooking meals, cleaning up after himself.  His life would not be as comfy.  Nevermind the fact thatn when is was over, I’d be bringing in more income for us as a household.  Definition of an a$$.

I find it a little oxymoronic that you thought he was happy all this time, but then you list all these little “minor” things that annoyed him or caused some irritation.  Do you see that?

Post # 50
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You’re definitely better off without him:  I hate reading about how he has been manipulating you by refusing contact.  Please don’t take him back if he comes crawling back.

Post # 52
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4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

LOL, good I’m glad you’re seeing it now! 

Now, what if he comes crawling back to you in the future, what are you going to do?  (Hypothetically speaking even if he doesn’t come crawling back.)

 Oops, I see someone already asked!

Post # 54
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4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think he’d be on more than his second chance right now.  Don’t you think?

Post # 55
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4497 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well you better stay on the hive! We need to live vicariously through your England adventures and learn about all your prospective lovers!

Post # 56
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743 posts
Busy bee

You’re taking is remarkably well.  I think you must have known deep down you deserve better than that.  Thats a totally unreasonable reaction in a relationship!!

I’m glad you will be staying around even as a single bee!! We quite like you here too!!

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@OrchidsandCandles:   Oh no! I’m sorry. But good point about letting him act like a child if he decides to – he can do that, but you don’t need to be part of his drama! Good for you.

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