(Closed) He (finally) gave me a short timeline I can deal with!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
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Sugar Beekeeper

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tallahasseelassie :  

Yes, I have  no problem with him buying it , ( what  he can reasonably  afford   ) I didn’t say anything  about paying part of it /throwing money  at him. I think you may have misunderstood. No  biggie tho.

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felicexo :  So very exciting!! Please be sure to post a picture of the ring as I am super interested in moissanite rings myself. I am so happy for you; you stuck it out even though two and half years can feel like an eternity (I know!)!!!

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felicexo :  Maybe he said 6th so if it was to happen on NYE or day you wouldnt be so crazy like “this is the LAST DAY! Give it to me!!! LOL – just a tactic to still keep some suprise to it maybe?

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Helper bee
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6th Jan is day you take down christmas decorations! Maybe the ’12 days of christmas’ will play a part in this proposal?…

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elderbee :  Well you said that it should happen when he has money to buy a ring or when the girl has an heirloom… I think there’s a 3rd ok option. I have a friend who wants an over the top ring WAY more than her bf can afford. I think if she’s going to put that additional pressure on, she should be able to help…some.

Mind you- this is a girl who is under 25 (as is her bf) and I’m 31- we go to the gym together. She wants some massive blingy ring not understanding the financial pressure to get something like that. He could afford a more simple ring in a year and that should be fine. But I feel like if she wants the above and beyond then she should be willing to throw in a little for it. 

I still like the guy to purchase the ring or put in for a bulk of it again for reasons of showing his intent. But with ladies working more these days, etc I see no reason for her not being able to contribute at some point if she wants something else. 

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felicexo :  This is soo close! It must feel good to have an estimate in your head now, although I bet it is still driving you crazy waiting! I know it would me!

I tried to have the timeline discussion with my SO last week but he wasn’t giving much away. I know the ring is either at the jewelers for finishing touches or is at home already… I’m not traditional at all, neither is he, but he is insisting on talking to my dad first. I have seen a lot of bees speaking out against this tradition but to be honest, if it’s what makes him feel comfortable then so be it!  think my dad would appreciate the effort, although he wouldn’t expect it or be offended if it doesn’t happen, which is annoying if it is technically the only thing getting in the way! (My parents live 3 hours away and we both work long weeks and sometimes weekends). It’s my birthday this week and we are going away for the weekend, but I know he wont be seeing my dad before then so I have had to let go of those hopes. He’s keeping his cards close to his chest because he thinks that me being involved in picking the ring has taken away some of the surprise element, and he really wants the proposal to be a surprise. I’m sure it will be worth the AGONISING wait!

I’m looking forward to hearing about the proposal, and ring pics too! 🙂

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Helper bee
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felicexo :  oh duh…haha oops! Either way, fingers crossed it’s soon! 😀

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Worker bee

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felicexo :  lol yep misread … regardless very exciting!! Keep us posted 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
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felicexo :  That’s so exciting!!!! Please keep us posted! 🙂

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tallahasseelassie : 

Sure. I don’t at  all believe in  making   a guy pay for some huge ring if it is clearly more than he can afford. If the  girl wants that and can  can afford to  contribute, no  probs there .  Wel, l so long as she doesn’t  ignore any bad  feelings he has about not  being able to afford huge bling,  that is!

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Newbee

It happened !!!!!!

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