(Closed) He finally proposed… and I said no! My waiting resentment.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 331
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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RobbieAndJuliahaha :  Beautifully written as all of the posts and replies I’ve read of yours are.  When I read something of yours I take notice.

I would say that falling in and out of love is natural in a long relationship. I once heard a man, who was married for 60 years, say the secret was that neither he nor his wife felt out of love at the same time.  I think you should tell your husband how you feel.  Yes it will hurt him, but he’s your life partner and he obviously loves you.  Wouldn’t you want to know?  Check out a website called Science of Relationships, go to marriage retreats, etc.  This can be fixed, you can rebuild most of what has been lost, together, as a team.  You can have the full life you think you’ve given up having. You both deserve it.

Post # 333
5783 posts
Bee Keeper

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Supernurse :  Thank you for your lovely words 🙂  Though I’m hypocritically much better at giving other people advice than sorting out my own bs

There is undoubtedly lots of wisdom in that man’s explanation of the ebb and flow of marriage- but we’ve only been married just under a year and a half, together for a total of 6 years if you include the dating period and 9 month engagement. And the thing is we do function as a team on many levels, but I don’t know that something missing or damaged can be repaired. I’m reading  all of the posts and definitely it gives me stuff to think about….but in all honesty, I don’t plan on telling him. 

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