(Closed) He found out I got a little botox and freaked!

posted 7 years ago in Beauty
Post # 47
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Busy Beekeeper

@soulmates:  ITA! Not saying that his wants shouldn’t be taken into consideration. But sorry, you should be making that call. Your an adult and your not going to be on board 100% of the time in any relationship.

Post # 48
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1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@cath3114:  I think people were suggesting reasons for why her Fi might have been upset, which the OP asked. 

Post # 49
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@teabiscuit:  i disagree. there were several posts emphasizing that it’s a toxin, poison, dangerous, causes craziness, she’s too young, etc. none of them even mentioned her Fiance. they all came across as very judgmental and not suggestive (not singling anybody out).

Post # 50
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Sugar bee

I think that it would have been ideal if you consulted with him the first time, but you’ve apologized and are talking with him now so I think he shouldn’t be flipping out. I am more on the side of “your body, your choice” but I also think that if my Darling Husband had done something like that and kept if from me it would be like he was hiding a part of who he is- the kind of person who does cosmetic procedures. (not in a negative way) It is just not who I picture him to be and who I know him as, so it would be shocking and a little unsettling, so I see where he is coming from. 

Post # 51
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233 posts
Helper bee

I am 25 and I get botox for my forehead lines.  I once told an ex that I got it and he flipped out and begged me to never do it again.  Fiance doesn’t care if I do it. Thank goodness. 🙂 Because I do it anyway. 🙂 I love the look of my non-wrinkled forehead.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I second Beejeweled!  

I think DH’s REAL concern is that you get hooked on doing these types of procedures over and over again.. then some women move onto altering features on a face completely and yada yada.. And if he’s helping to pay for these procedures, well then….Tongue Out

And Botox can’t be all that harmful if they’re allowing dentists like myself to take courses to administer it.  Granted, if you injected in wrong areas, it results in (temporary) paralysis of certain muscles.  

Guess what I’m trying to say is.. Red meat is “bad” for you, but people still eat it.

To each their own!

Post # 53
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a teeny tiny bit of liposuction done under local anaesthetic.

It was a small cost compared to the “average” price of liposuction, and I had saved the cost from my “my” money.  Still, I was really nervous about telling my Fiance.  I waited weeks after my consult and then after booking it, to tell him.

After a sleepness night, two weeks before my procedure date: I finally swallowed my pride/fear and told him….

He was amazingly supportive. He reassured me so many time that I dind’t need it; but fully supported me, dropped me off and picked me up (despite local anasthetic and no sedative, I wasn’t allowed to drive); and was sweet and helpful to me in my swollen days after.

All he was scared about was losing me to some freak accident, and I know the night before he didn’t sleep well because of it.

I appreciated both his concern & his acceptance of my choices over my body.  I hope that your husband eventually comes around to the same balance: of worry over you (which I feel like he has currently), but also your commitment to stay beautiful for both yourself & him.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Meowkers:  It’s your body and you shouldn’t have to ask permission for doing what you want with it.  It’s the equivalent of changing your hair. 


I disagree that it’s the same as changing your hair.  You are injecting a something into your body, and it’s a cosmetic procedure.  I like DH’s hair a little longer, but he likes to buzz it in the summer because he’s cooler.  He knows I like it longer, but I don’t complain when he buzzes it because it’s HAIR and it IS his body.  But if he went and had Botox or say, got a tattoo without even mentioning it, I would be pretty peeved.  

She shouldn’t have to ask for permission, but I do think it should be discussed in general before she had it done.  

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