- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Yes, you read that right, he gave me a diamond ring. I should be thrilled, right? But I’m not and here’s why…
SO got A LOT of money back in taxes this year. Enough to buy a ring and then some. I wasn’t expecting a ring, but was hoping. In the meantime, he bought a really expensive computer and a bunch of other things. I kind of jokingly whined that he should get me something.
Last night, we are sitting together chatting when SO pulls a white box out from his pocket and says something really sweet. I am telling my heart to be still and to take deep breaths. I open the little white box to find a jewelry box. At this point, I am really telling myself to relax… it’s probably earrings.
I slowly open the box and… OMG… it’s a ring. My heart leaps up and I have to push it back down telling it to slow down. Be still my heart! lol…. I get a better look at the ring and it’s a ring that looks like e-rings that many people wear, with the multi-stones making the center stone. To me, it looks more like an e-ring than your average, just for fun ring. It has the center stone (made of smaller stones) which is up, like a solitaire and then diamonds in the band. I can honestly say I’ve never seen something like this worn as anything other than an e-ring, although it’snot exactly what I would pick for an e-ring, but at that moment I don’t care… I just wonder what does this mean???
So I look at him to see if he’s going to say anything and he doesn’t. He just smiles at me. Silence. Smiles. More silence. It’s not an e-ring, I tell myself. The silence is loud. So, I take it out of the box and tell him it’s really pretty but it looks kind of big. He says, “that’s because it’s not meant to be worn as an e-ring.” I smile big, hoping my disappointment doesn’t show in my eyes, or even worse run down my cheeks in the form of tears.
So, there we sit, me staring at my very pretty and very sparkly non-engagement ring. I am still VERY happy and love the thoughtful gift, but are boys slow or what? I mean, you don’t buy a girl a diamond ring when you KNOW she wants to get engaged and then tell her it’s just a ring and NOT to be worn on her ring finger.
My friends are just as confused as I am as to why he would buy a ring that looks like an engagement ring, but is not an engagement nor promise ring. Maybe it’s his practice ring? And, so here I sit, continuing to wait… with something sparkly to stare at to pass the time.