(Closed) He gave me a ring… but not an e-ring. Srsly?!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

is this all he can afford right now and he’s trying to show you that you mean so much to him?

Post # 3
454 posts
Helper bee

Do you guys ever talk about finances?  Living together, I’m assuming you do sometimes; if I were you I’d try to bring up saving money, maybe tell him that you want him to save his money to get you an e-ring, and maybe show him the kinds that you like?  It seems a little obvious to me, but most guys wouldn’t realize that you know about the ring, they can be kind of clueless sometimes πŸ˜‰ Just a suggestion!  I hope everything works out for you and your ring! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
2091 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

All I can say until you update the post is that I hope that he is going to propose with it… You could upgrade it later…

Post # 6
1731 posts
Bumble bee

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jhunter:  Could they be playing a trick on you to throw you off? Let’s keep hope alive πŸ™‚

Post # 8
3535 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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jhunter:  time to have a heart to heart with him about this. Thank him for the ring, but tell him at this point in ur relationship, the only piece of jewelry u want from him is an engagement ring. End of story. Then ask him for a timeline that will bring u to the engagement. 

Although I have to say, at this point it sounds like he has no interest in moving things forward. This ring may be a ring to shut u up about an engagement. 

Post # 10
7892 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

He hasn’t given it to you, so things could end up much differently than what you pictured. If the ring is related to a big romantic gesture, maybe you’ll be so caught up in the moment that it will be amazing. If he proposes and states he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, maybe the look of the ring will matter less. If it’s “just” a ring that’s a gift, it can be an opportunity for you to revisit where your relationship is headed. 

It’s also possible that that’s not actual ring he’s going to give you. If your sister knows the details, maybe you can tell her to suggest to him to select a different ring. 

Post # 11
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ok, so you have expressed that you want to get married…has he expressed the same? This has very little to do with jewelry and much more to do with what page each of you are on.

Post # 12
938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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jhunter:  Reading your posts, the only person coming off as insensitive is you.

Post # 13
1731 posts
Bumble bee

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jhunter:  I can’t imagine why a guy would torture you by bragging about having extra money to spend, and buy you a random ring for funsies when he knows that you want an e-ring. Plus why would he get your sister involved for a regular ring purchase AND still buy you the ring even though she advised against it? Is this standard? Do they always talk? It sounds like the perfect way to throw to throw off, and I really hope that’s the case!

If it isn’t I’m sorry πŸ™

In that case I agree with PP. It’s definitely time for a heart to heart.

Post # 15
1840 posts
Buzzing bee

First of all, by his comment about it not giving you the wrong idea because it looks nothing like an engagement ring it sounds like he is NOT going to propose with it. It honestly sounds like he wanted to do something nice for you and buy you a small gift. 

Second of all, your sister probably shouldn’t have told you. That’s terribly inconsiderate on her part as he has obviously gone out of his way to surprise you with something nice and she has ruined that. 

Third of all, you are sounding very insensitive. Please remember that a lot of guys don’t have a lot of attention to detail when it comes to jewellery and how it will match your wardrobe. He saw something that for whatever reason reminded him of you and he thought you would like it so he bought it. Give the guy a break and be greatful for what it is. 

Finally, can you post the link of the ring – often stock photos of rings can make them seem a lot more gaudy than they are, so I’m interested in seeing it. 

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