Post # 61
I don’t have American friends, but mostly colleagues that I work with. Kind of feel uncomfortable to ask/discuss about such things at work. I was still in the same company before I moved and had showed his pic to my manager to see incase if he knows him personally to see if I can collect some info from him. But at that point we were mainly texting as friends and I felt it weird to randomly go and ask his old team mates about him since they don’t know me very well either to share his details.
I am not planning to get into dating now as I would spend few months to get over this. But if I do, I think I will have to take help of such forums to get a second opinion from people. I also went through various sites on internet to understand the dating culture here, but I was getting mixed info related to his behavior. Eg: Back in April, when I asked him couple of times to call me and he wasn’t calling, I had googled and on some sites it was mentioned that forcing guys to do things they are not yet ready to do would come out as needy and that would make him push away. Since he was spending good amount of time with me back then and it felt like we were on the same page, I didn’t wanted that to happen. But now when he was clearly breadcrumbing and stringing me along, I didn’t care about coming out as needy.
Post # 62
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Post # 63
I had initially sent him 3-4 pics, just to show who I am. Those pics had my face in it and in all the pics, I was fully dressed/covered, so it was just my face and hands that were visible. None were racy/revealing. Initial 3 months, he didn’t ask me for semi-nude pics. It was only after we started sexting when he asked for it. But he had asked me a few times to turn on my cam while texting so he could see how I look. Back then since I was busy with packing n stuff for the move, I wasn’t getting much time to concentrate on my looks, so I had told him we can video chat after I move. After I moved, he asked again, but that was late at night, so I had told him that we can start video-chatting after a week or so in the evenings and that would give us a chance to know each other better. He agreed to it, but never bought it up later and instead as I recollect, I was mostly getting excuses like he is busy with work so is coming back home late at night. So we never actually facetime, nor did I send him any racy pics and nor do I know how he sounds.
He had sent me over a dozen pics in 5 months. He had also tried sharing couple of shirtless pics, without me asking for it and I had clearly told him not to share such pics with me. He asked would I be the same after we start dating and I had told I don’t know about it now. I have never shared or seen such pics of my friends before, so depends upon when I get comfortable.
Yeah I agree you can’t predict how people would turn out. Usually everyone is nice in the beginning and he was pretty sweet and caring for me even though he had told me he has done FWB’s and hookups before. It was mainly sometime after we started sexting in March end-April that he seemed like a complete different person. Even my ex seemed like a gentleman and showed his good side for 6 months. We were in arranged marriage setting, so don’t get much time to spend together and there is no live-in. But after 6 months, his mask fell off and he was abusive and suffering for NPD and I had to call off my marriage.