(Closed) He got orders tonight- Need Advice/ VENT!

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@pinkcrush:  I would consider getting legally married now, and having the original wedding be a vow renewal with all of the bells and whistles.

Post # 4
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

This is so sudden, but an elopement can be romantic 🙂

Post # 5
662 posts
Busy bee

You can get married at the JOP this week and then still have your big wedding as you planned it.  I’m sure he’ll have enough leave days saved up for that by then.  Also (and I hope this doesn’t sound snarky) if you are marrying into the military then you need to start preparing yourself for the military wife lifestyle.  Being a military wife means constantly having plans around the military.  Also I’d say that you’re lucky you have the opportunity to discover a whole new country with your Fiance instead of you being left behind while he goes some place like Afghanistan.  This could be one of the most fantastic adventures of your life.  And it doesn’t necessarily have to ruin your wedding plans.


Either way, good luck! 

Post # 6
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree, get married now so you can go with him and still plan for your original wedding. Are you in the US military? Would you need to change your wedding date so he could have leave during that time?

Post # 7
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@pinkcrush:  Because my guy is deploying early next year, we’re getting “officially” engaged next month when he comes back from his long trip, then we’re getting legally married in January. When he comes back from deployment, that’s when we’re having the religious ceremony in December.

So I would do what asscherlover suggested: get married legally so you can move with him but still have the original wedding as the vow renewal. People will understand the military circumstances. If they don’t…fuck ’em.

Post # 8
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@pinkcrush:  Embrace it 🙂  

Darling Husband and I planned our elopement in 9 days, so it can definitely be done and it can still be wonderfully special for you both.  Perhaps keep the October date for a reception?  Or do a courthouse wedding now and plan a vow renewal for October.  Everyone will understand why you moved the wedding up, and if people can make it out for a small wedding in a week or two, then the more the merrier.  If you can work in some elements of a traditional wedding (the dress, flowers, photography, etc), then it will help it feel more like something that was intentional instead of a last minute deal.

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