Post # 1
My fiance got a job he recently applied for and will be leaving next week to start. It is about 3.5 hours from were we live now. I won’t be able to relocate with him until late next year as I am finishing my last 13 classes needed for my accounting degree.
I go back and forth between being sad and happy. It is a great position paying well over 100K but other than the money (and putting this position on his resume to advance himself later), I am not seeing much “benefit” and therefore it is hard for me to get excited. He won’t be here to plan the rest of the wedding with me. We have NO IDEA how much time they will give him off for the wedding so we have scrapped the honeymoon plans. I will be here with our kids by myself most of the week. I won’t have him close to me.
Anyone have any insight on this subject? I am thankful he was able to get this position as the economy still stinks employment-wise, I guess the timing of it all is horrible. I wish it were after the wedding and closer to my graduation date, but since it isn’t, I must find a way to deal.
Post # 3
THIS TOO SHALL PASS. 🙂
I know it’s easier said than done. But a year from now you’ll be looking back, shocked, that a WHOLE year had passed. You’ll be done with school with a fabulous degree behind you. You’ll be back with your SO and will be financially stable AND financially comfortable which is a God send in this day and age. And to top it off, it’s only 3.5 hrs away. It’s not an impossible trip to make. Inconvenient. Tiring. Not impossible.
It will probably be hard. But temporary. But I know you can do it. 🙂 Sometimes our biggest struggles come with the biggest rewards. 🙂
Post # 4
Darling Husband and I did 10 months long distance for my first job. Excapt we were on opposite coasts of the country (him in Atlanta and me in LA).
Yeah – it wasn’t fun but I think it ultimately made us stronger both individually and as a couple. But having a definite end date (which you guys have – the end of your schooling) makes it so much easier. We planned pretty much our entire wedding while long distance (and long distance from the wedding location – it was in IN) and that really wasn’t a big deal at all. It is really easy to email things and discuss them via phone.
And at just 3.5 hours apart, you guys could see each other most weekends if you wanted to.
If you really don’t want to do the distance thing, can you tranfer to another school to finish your accounting degree?
It sounds like this is a great opporutnity for him (both money and advancement potential wise)!
Post # 5
3.5 hours isn’t that bad, you can definitely spend lots of weekends with him! And making 100k+? You should be able to save a nice bit to start your lives together (assuming cost of living isn’t super high where you are)
Post # 6
It can be really difficult, but it’s temporary, and you have things to keep you busy. We’ve been long distance for over a year now, with at least another 10 months apart, since my SO moved to a different country for grad school (like an 19 hour drive away) and I stayed here to keep working on my grad degree (also alone with our child). It’s not much fun, obviously, but you can make it work. Staying in regular contact is a big thing for us, so we make sure we email every day and talk whenever we can on skype. We’re planning on wedding long distance too, and it’s been fine – we email ideas back and forth and then someone follows up on things.
He’s got this great opportunity – the benefits are that he’s got a job (which in this economy is something all on its own), it pays quite well, and it gives him the possible of advancing further. Sometimes the sacrifices you make as a couple suck, but the benefits are there if you look for them.
Post # 7
id never live without my dh for a year. a month or two , maybe–not a whole year.
Post # 8
You CAN do it:) Especially if it’s for the greater good. We’ve been living apart since March because I got an awesome job offer backhome in LA. He has his own business on the East Coast and he makes really good money, so it made no sense for him to move until he could find a buyer and move out here for good.
We both work so hard and plane trips across the country are expensive but we talk three times a day and are managing because it’s not going to be for long.
Time will pass so quickly and you’ll be living together again before you know it.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies. He is leaving on Monday 🙁
Post # 10
so you wont be there till about a yr from now? that would be really hard BUT with all the extra money I would hope he would be paying for frequent flights vs driving there.
I say you can do it and that type of money these days is great. be happy for him… and your future.