(Closed) He has a ring but has been waiting for the right time!

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d be wondering what was up, too, if he had a ring for 2 YEARS that he was holding onto, i’d be going crazy, too.

Maybe he IS waiting for the right time, but he needs to know that any time can be "the right time". Also, maybe there is an underlying reason as to why he hasn’t proposed and you should be sensitive to that, despite what he says. Either way, I’d want to know what was going on, too, so you aren’t alone! 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmm.  I have thought about this and there was a similar post recently and my take on this is this..

Do NOTHING about it yet.  Enjoy where you two are right now but set an internal timeline to pick up the subject again.  If say in November he has yet to propose, I would ask him what is his plan for us and his intent?  Make it clear you aren’t waiting forever.

also..how is the house titled?  Is it in both names?  How did you two handle this?  that’s also important to recognize if things change.

But it sounds as if he will ask.  Building a home and moving in takes ENERGY and focus.  Men sometimes are imho, single focus people.  My guy sometimes is so brilliant but can focus on one thing.  Forest for the trees kind of vision.

If after November there’s no movement within say six months (make that a year directly from now) I would rethink options.  Living together IS a huge committment as is buying a home together.  I think he would do it by then hopefully.

Wishing you to much love and happiness ..and congrats on having a new home!  That’s great!

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