- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
My brother has completely cut ties with our family.
It began with our mom, which was understandable. She is a recovering drug addict and did some pretty bad things at the peak of her lunacy. She is now doing well and wants nothing more than to rebuild the family she helped break. My brother wants nothing to do with her, however. He’ll show up for major family events (Christmas) and act cordial but deep down I know he has no feelings for her.
But then he started ignoring dad. It started because he won’t pick up the home phone (because he doesn’t want to talk to mom) so naturally, he can’t talk with dad. Our dad is paying his colege loan for him and mom is even letting him borrow her car since his died and he won’t buy a new one. But he won’t even pick up their calls! And they mostly call to tell him about job opportunities! He didn’t take a $14 and hour job my mom told him about which was MUCH better than his bus boy job purely out of spite.
And now he has stopped talking to me. We have always confided in each other but lately that has changed. He either would answer his phone and say he’ll call me back (he wouldn’t) but now he wont even pick up. We used to be so close. I honestly think that just because I still visit/talk/like our parents he is avoiding me as if I am “tainted” by them.
I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to completely write him out of my life but he’s leaving me no other options. And the effect its having on our parents is terrible! Their own son treats them like dirt! He sits around his sh*tty apartment smoking pot, drinking, doing nothing and STILL thinks he’s too good for the rest of us