(Closed) He has me thinking ’bout a break.

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think the way he handled it can sometimes be enough to make one rethink it. I mean, a person has to deal with both the good and the bad in a marriage with some sort of grace… It can be frustrating, but maybe there is an underlying problem that you can talk out, not just some “random crazy” that he’s suddenly spouting.

I would just hit the hay tonight and wake up with a fresh take. It’s kind of hard, I know, but take a bath and read a book or do something that’s just for you and non-other-person related. When you look at the problem with fresh eyes, you’ll see your answer… and hopefully after you two talk, you will too. Good luck and I’m sorry that tonight went so badly. best wishes to you.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

No, you are definatley not being sensitive. He is! I can’t believe he would react like that! It is definately male PMS! Me and my Fiance joke about stuff like that all the time! I am obsessed with Tom Brady, and he says all the time that if I get Tom, he gets his Victoria Secret model wife! I totally don’t get why he would act like that? Is he a very jealous person? Because if he is and you’re not, then you definately might need to take a break and reevaluate the relationship. That is something very silly to get upset about. Do you guys live together yet?

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

um yeah he got mad over an nfl player on TV?! he’s on his period fuh real.. . M rolls his eyes when i talk about the steelers head coach (yummy) the things… and he just says girl please you wouldn’t do a thing.  and he’s absolutely correct.  i think he’s on his period… and shame on you.. he’s being all sensitive about proposing… next time he answers your response is (stepford wife-ish) oh no baby they aren’t my type i’d continue to look for you until i found you…

 

😀

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

lol diva that was funny. Hes probably just having a moment where he feels insecure, everyone has those moments. I agree he over reacted, but for some reason he was senstive about the topic. I would try to just let it go for now, sometimes little things can turn into big fights if you press them. Its easy to think about wanting a break after a fight, but its normal to have fights as long as they arent daily. Im sure hell be over it by tomorrow just give him some time.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL at Cre- “girl please, you wouldn’t do a thing”… I like him! He’s funny.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Yes, male PMS does exist.

That being said, I think that he probably didn’t mean to get harsh with you and I think that he handled the leaving part very well. Granted, he should not be jealous of an imaginary person, but maybe that really isn’t the issue. Maybe he had a really bad day and there is something that is really bothering him that he is afraid to tell you. That is what I am thinking based on what you have stated. I think that he was wise asking for a cooling off period for himself. He doesn’t want to say or do something he may regret in the morning. That is a good thing. I suggest getting some sleep and talking with him tomorrow when you both have had a chance to get some sleep. It looks to me like there is something that is really worrying him.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@km: his other responses are “you ain’t going no where” and i guess i’m stuck with you 😛 (his daughter tells him this all the time to him, it’s their thing, so he prefaces it by saying her name just like H says, I’m stuck with you.. he’s hilarious.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If it’s out of character, give him the benefit of the doubt. If he keeps acting like this… well, then I guess something would have to change!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I know! I’m like that too – I never can leave him (or anyone/anything) alone when it just needs a bit of time to calm down.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@91011: tee hee i bat my eyes and say stuff like that at M and he just LAUGHS at me… but seriously he knows i have looked for him, but a chocolate man still does something “special” to me… i have no idea how i ended up with this pale green eyed (sometimes blue) guy.. sigh…

good lawd help me..

eta and whose yours?!

btw if you don’t like the stepford wifey type look.. go mj blige… shorty i’m there for you anytime you need me, for real boy it’s me in your world believe me… (it’ll make him grin).. or you could send a great cell video rendition of you singing santa baby very eartha kitt like…

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Kudos to you for not texting or calling him. I always feel the need to resolve things NOW and end up making things way worse!

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