(Closed) He has plans to spend his tax return…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh goodness…I totally can relate..my SO is saving his tax return on putting extra on our mortgage….yep so Im still in waiting until June…

Post # 4
1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Paying back debt for our dog’s emergency surgery and for fixing my car after it was hit by an uninsured driver. Very exciting, I know!

Last year my then-BF/now-DH spent his tax return on an engagement ring for me, plus a little he’d scraped together. He was intentionally elusive about what he was going to spent his refund on because he wanted it to be a surprise.

Maybe your SO is intentionally not talking about the money for a ring on purpose, because he wants it to be a surprise or because he doesn’t want you to know what he spent?

If it’s just that he doesn’t see the value of a piece of jewelry over an item like a camera (not unusual for a guy to see items’ practical value before symbolic value), you may need to nudge him in the right direction so he understands the importance of that piece of jewelry to you. You saying you only need a $300 ring may have made him mininterpret how important it is to you (not saying this is necessarily true, but conveying how important it is can’t hurt).

Post # 5
437 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Ugh, I know what you mean! My SO will be getting a huge return this year, and he has mentioned his goal for this year is to pay off all his debts, “so that next year I can buy a $40-50k car.” I almost word vomited all over the place about “what about my ring!?!?!” I mean, he does have a great paying job…but can’t he still be modest with his luxuries and get me what I want first? ๐Ÿ™

We looked at e-rings 9 mo ago and went again a few weeks ago…what the [email protected]%k…sorry, mini-vent. He’s been really frugal w/ money lately…so maybe he’s also saving for a ring. I don’t know…all I DO know is I’m getting frustrated haha.

Post # 6
1002 posts
Bumble bee

If it makes you feel better, my SO is going to spend his ~$4K return on a high end coal stove and the supplies to install it in the living room + build a coal storage hopper (that I designed) behind the garage.  Of course, we don’t live even remotely near any actively mined coal deposits, so the stove wouldn’t even be a good investment for our home if my father didn’t happen to have 2+ tons of coal he said we could have…


the e-ring I want is $465 before shipping.  Shipping is around $10.  We both make enough money that either of us could just buy it outright, no saving needed.

Post # 7
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yikes! My Boyfriend or Best Friend is spending his on our fixer-upper house, aka the black hole for all money.

My tax return will probably just go into savings.

Post # 8
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Maybe he’s just saying that’s what he’s going to spend the money on…

Post # 9
5951 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

…let’s see, I bought me some new shoes, cause the ones I wear everyday have a hole in the sole…and Mr. 99, ever the predictable automotive enthusiast is blowing it on his Jeep…but then again, we’ve been married 5 years, and I love my ring!  Maybe he’s lying to throw you off the scent?


Hope so!

Post # 10
3586 posts
Sugar bee

He’s paying off some bills and I’ll be buying a new dishwasher. He hates them, but I can’t live without it now, with our daughter, work, the gym- it’s hectic and it’s SUPER helpful!LOL

Post # 11
3184 posts
Sugar bee

I will net back about $500. I plan on sending it on a wedding cake and a cupcake for myself. The cupcake is just because. 

Edit: Just found out I may not be paying for the cake so woohoo! Lots of cupcakes. And wedding make up at Sephora. And savings (if there is any left after I am done buying cupcakes).

Post # 12
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No trying to be snippy or sassy, but you should be grateful that he’s getting a tax return back at all.  Last year, right before our wedding that we were paying for on our own, my then fiance found out that he owed around $1500 on his taxes due to a mistake with his jobs payroll!  YIKES!  So we had the great pleasure of dealing with that and ultimately having to cut some things out of our honeymoon plans to cover that.  This year we are spending our tax returns on new compound bows (we’re hunters)!

Post # 13
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well this is the first year we are filing taxes together and I thought I would be getting something back but instead i OWED money ๐Ÿ™ But since my Darling Husband is getting a good tax return back it balanced out and i wont owe anything. Hes going to buy parts for his car and get me a new purse. It kinda bothered me cuz hes blowing his whole check on his car just to make it look good. Idk I hope next year will be different I guess it could be worse lol

Post # 14
9811 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I took about $400 of it to pay for part of my trip to Vegas in March.  The rest of it is all in my savings for the wedding.  I have NO idea if he is even getting any money back.  He hasn’t done his yet.


Post # 15
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@aokay:  My SO bought a car and remodeled while saving and can still afford the ring. So perhaps he already has the money?

Post # 16
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He’s telling you to relax? I’d put money down he’s already got plans for your ring ๐Ÿ˜‰ Last year DH’s tax return bought my ering, his wedding band and went towards our wedding. This year we haven’t made any plans yet but I’m hoping some of it is going towards a family trip somewhere ๐Ÿ™‚ 

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