(Closed) He has the ring but hasn't asked.

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 61
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Northern Territory, Australia

My Fiance bought the ring in December 2013 after we had been together 3.5 years and came back from a holiday. He then waited another SIX MONTHS (and bypassed Christmas, New Years, another holiday AND my birthday) and proposed on our 4 year anniversary. 

It was perfect. 

Post # 62
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Bumble bee

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dbsmom76:  i designed my ring together with Fiance. Once the ring was ready he took it and I had to wait until he did his thing and proposed. Well, we went to Germany, I spent three months there and just when the time was coming of me leaving, he proposed. So the torture lasted three months! Haha

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Ok I know this is an older post. But I know my partner has had a ring for 3 weeks now. And he knows I know. And I feel awful because it is REALLY starting to irriate me. And I am just wondering does  he have something planned or does he just not actually want to ask? I am starting to get sort of resentful :-/ And that is making me feel like the bad guy. 🙁 

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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paintitblackcat9:  I would venture to guess if he didn’t want to ask he wouldn’t have bought a ring.  I would also bet that if he bought the ring he probably has a plan.

Or maybe he found a ring way faster than he thought he would and he doesn’t have a plan yet which could very well be why he hasn’t asked.

As someone who waited for what felt like forever for the ring and was a not-very-nice-girlfriend A LOT because I was SO MAD about not being engaged, relax.  Being engaged doesn’t really change much.. Start preparing for your inevitable wedding by saving money — I wish I had haha!

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - Pantagis Renaissance

I believe my Fiance had the ring for over a year before he proposed… chill, it’ll happen. Don’t think about it and be happy with your relationship. A ring doesn’t change anything, really esp. since you know he’ll propose eventually.

Post # 66
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Mine drove me insane! He told everyone in August he was going to propose soon, including me. He got the ring in October (family heirloom) and waited until February to get it custom reset. It was finished in April and he proposed in May finallyyyyyy. I was dying!! Staying on sites like these and talking about it makes it a thousand times worse, trust me. I recommend avoiding wedding talk until you have it!

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I didn’t know my fiance had the ring. We looked at rings together so he would know my style. But i had no idea when he woudl purchase a ring he liked, and i had no idea when or HOW he was going to propose. Personally i think being there and knowing he has the ring ruines hte entire proposal and makes you freak out, kind of like you’re doing now. I asked after we got engaged how long he had it and he said about 4 months. He wanted to wait until my favorite month October to propose. It was wonderful. And are you positive he has the ring?

Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Hans Fahden Vineyards

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paintitblackcat9:  the problem I see with all of this is that YOU know. How did you find out? If he told you, that wasn’t very smart. I received the ring today, but you can be sure she doesn’t know. In the next three or four weeks, I have to meet with her parents (I didnt want to ask for their blessing until I could show them the ring), I want to show my brother, sister and parents, and I’m working the photographing of the ring and the subsequent project I’m doing into the proposal. 

I would echo a PP and say if he bought it or got it, he intends to propose…i wish, for your sake, you didn’t know, because it brings up a whole host of problems, but let them go and let it happen. I’m sure if my girlfriend knew I had a 4 carat diamond in my cabinet, she’d go ballistic that she didn’t get it right away. 

What you don’t know will help you, in this situation.

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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daniellemc:  Oh yes, because he is adorably clumsy he accidentally left the ring box on his computer desk. (We don’t live together) and we stopped by to let the dog out. His eyes went the size of a dinner plate before he said “oh shit” and tried to palm it and put it behind his back. I knew we had been shopping and agreed on a couple styles. Then I said “ARE YOU KIDDING ME? WHY WAS IT OUT LIKE THAT?” his repsone “sorry… I was just looking at it it’s really pretty, I will hide it better until the time comes… so sorry” I was thinking well you may as well just let me have it you nerd! lol 

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

HE DID IT! haha We had to stop by my work on Sunday so I could grab a few things and no one is there we are closed weekends. And I had been sort of giving him a hard time about it on the way there. And I was grabbing a box of stuff and I turned around and he was down on one knee. I almos asked “what the hell are you doing on the floor?”  until I saw the ring box. It was perfect I was totally caught off gaurd and I couldn’t stop laughing/crying. The ring is a white garnet and the plan is to shop for a diamond ring together. But I am really loving it so we will see if I even decide to get a diamond. 

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

::squeel:: congratulation!!!! that’s wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m very very excited for you!!!! I remember how giddy i was when i got my ring. i had to show it off to everyone! Congrats!!!!!

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