(Closed) He has the ring but….

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree with the previous poster that since he took it on your vacation he has intentions of doing it really soon; so I wouldn’t ask if it were me. If he hadn’t taken it, then it would be a different story.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Seriously… I say don’t ask!!! He is going to ask ANY time now, and if you ask it will ruin the surprise or make him push it back even farther. It will happen SOON. Don’t ask! Good luck!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@jtaylor18:  I have no idea 🙁 I still wouldn’t say anything yet… you know he has the ring and is trying to figure out the perfect moment to do it. I bet he wants to so bad, but he wants the day to be PERFECT and if anything goes wrong on one day, he will wait for another day, just so the day is completely wonderful. If you mention it, he might wait even longer until you ‘forget’ about it and he doesn’t feel like it was forced. Good luck!!!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@jtaylor18:  I’m sorry to hear you’re STILL waiting! This is a tough one, but I would hold out and not ask anything yet. The fear of asking at the worst possible time prevails! Hang in there!

Post # 22
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Newbee

When are they going to learn that what makes it perfect is them proposing?!?  Op,.

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@jtaylor18:  I know how hard it is.  He purchased my ring last March so not quite as long for me but still a long time.  In that time we have spent a weekend at a beachside bed and breakfast,  spent a week in my hometown meeting my extended family, spent a week in Vegas, and this past weekend spent the night at the beach to celebrate my birthday.   Still nothing.  Hell, before we flew back to meet my family,  he insisted I get my nails done (which is something I never do).  The night before we went to Vegas he told me he was going to mske me his wife.  

 

Whoa….that was a lot about me.  My point is that you’re not alone. Sending hugs your way!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

BE PATIENT! DO NOT ASK! I was in the exact same situation and pretty much blew his romantic proposal because I was too anxious and always asking for hints/questions. It will be much more special if you just wait it out. I know it’s hard but it will be worth it! 🙂

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

@jtaylor18:  That is a tough one, but I think I would ask… Fall of 2011…wow

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t necessarily ask why he didn’t propose, but I would ask if he had recently thought about you two getting married and what kind of timeline he had in mind.  Kind of a “Dude, just what are you waiting for?” moment.

He needs to know that you are getting antsy.

 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m surprised so many are telling you not to ask. I would bring it up. You don’t have to say anything about knowng he had the ring on vacation or anything, but just say you’ve been thinking about your future and just want to make sure you’re still on the same track. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would ask…. if the ring is still returnable or he thinks his next girlfriend might like it. 

1.5 years after getting a ring and not even a talk about what’s going on?  Oh.hell.no.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would ask. One should be able to communicate honestly with their significant other in their relationship. I agree with the other PPs who stated that you didn’t necessarily have to query why he is delaying the proposal but I do think that you should speak up if it is genuinely bothering you.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jtaylor18:  I’m with laciekate on this one.  I think you could have a typicaly discussion for being 4.5 years into a relationship.  You could easily just ask him what his plans for the future are.  Ask him when he sees himself getting married and having kids.  Keep things general and I don’t think you’ll make him put anything off.  Doesn’t have to be a serious sit-down, just a laying on the couch tossing dreams for the future back and forth.  It’s always good to make sure you are on the same page.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

jtaylor18 I’m sorry to hear you’re still waiting. My boyfriend fiance proposed to me two weeks ago. I had been waiting and managed to stay silent for 2 months.

Remembering your post I asked him what he would have done if I had brought up the subject/nagged (for lack of a better word) and he said I would have ruined it and he would have waited longer. Which is what I thought.

MissGreyhound “When are they going to learn that what makes it perfect is them proposing?!? “

Oh my god yes- when indeed!?

 

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