(Closed) He has the ring… his friends all know he is planning to propose… so…when??

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not sure there is a clear cut answer to this.  My SO has had the ring for 4 months now and I know guys can hang on to rings waiting for the “perfect time” The only difference for us is none of his friends or family knows he has the ring and only my parents and a few of my friends know.  It’s hard and frustrating being at this point I know trust me I do! We can only hope it happens soon.  Guys don’t understand how hard this part is on us!

Post # 4
94 posts
Worker bee

Yep, at this point the best thing to do would be “zen” as you say. From what I’ve read on these boards, talking engagement all the time deters men from actually jumping in and proposing. Makes sense I suppose.

I’m in a  similar situation to you, in that my SO and I have been talking engagement for over a year (he brought it up). We looked at rings, I showed him the one I wanted and he agreed it was perfect – still nothing. For the holidays, EVERYONE was making comments. I even walked in the room as his grandmother asked in broken english “So when is wedding? She nice girl!” His response was “Soon, very soon.” So I continue to wait, and wonder, what the definition of “soon” means. It is comforting to know that it is definitely coming up, but seriously guy, it’s been a year. It is so frustrating knowing it’s coming, but no idea when!

But I don’t think you have to worry about what his friends will think – if everyone knows it is coming, they will probably just be anxious and excited for you! Good luck!


Post # 5
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Men are notorious for having the ring but waiting for that perfect moment. Has hard as it is, try and be patient. All the clues are there that you should be getting a proposal soon. Keep us posted!! 

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