Post # 1
So my SO and I have been together almost 6 years now. He bought the ring on Sunday (3 days ago) and its sitting in our basement in a cardboard chainsaw box. He had the ring in his pocket monday and at one point monday night took my promise ring off of my hand . I totally thought he was going to to it then. Tuesday when I got home from work when the sun was setting he took me outside and made a bonfire and still didnt do it. Its now wednesday and Im starting to get anxious. I didnt think I would be thinking about it as much as I am now. He has no Idea that I know about it. We are looking to get married this upcoming fall ( about 5 months away) so I feel like I am already on a time crunch with planning. What should I do?? He doesnt like getting emotional and Im afraid that hes just putting it off because when he tried to do it the other days he was getting emotional inside. I have been doing soooooo good at not bringing up anything wedding related at all. I have seen alot of girls post and get some good advice on here. Im looking for the same.
Post # 2
I’m sorry girl! I have a feeling that he’ll do it soon, especially if you’re getting married this fall! I found out in January that my boyfriend has had my ring since early October…and he still hasn’t asked! Some days it drives me crazy knowing it’s in our safe and not on my finger, but other days I’m just happy he actually has it.
You’re an amazing person for not bringing up wedding stuff, I try but it doesn’t work haha. Keep your chin up! Would he be okay with doing some planning before you have the ring? After all, a lot of Bees here seem to go with the “engagement doesn’t mean ring” philosophy. To me, it sounds like you’re there!
Post # 3
He will do it when he finds the right moment! Let him figure out when that is and don’t let him know that you know. This is a big moment for him as well as you. I picked out the ring with my fiance and he asked me to please let him propose when he wanted to/how he wanted to without asking questions (he knows me, haha). He did when he was ready and it was the best moment of my life thus far. Hang in there!!
Post # 3
Good luck! I am in the same boat as you. My SO has the ring but hasn’t proposed yet. It’s driving me nuts and I agree that it’s almost worse than the other waiting, but I’m sure some other waiting bees would disagree.
Before we picked out the ring and he bought it, we were just growing as a couple and getting to the point where we were both ready to make that committment…now that we’re at this place, it just seems more immediate and therefore I’m way more antsy and excited than I was before. While I was waiting (for us to be to the point where we were ready for marriage), I just had fun and didn’t think too much of it, knowing that he’d be ready when he was ready and that until then, we would just enjoy life as a couple. But after he was ready and let me know this, my mind suddenly switched over to OH WE’RE READY LET’S GET THIS SHOW ON THE ROAD. I have to keep reminding myself of the way I was before he bought the ring but sometimes I get a little excited. Every weekend I wonder “will this be it?” but luckily I don’t get mad or anything when it doesn’t happen…And honestly I’ve gotten a lot better at waiting for him to choose his proposal (since I knew when he bought the ring and exactly what it looks like, it’s important for him to put together a nice surprise proposal) the longer it’s taking him. He’s had the ring for about seven or eight weeks.
However, we consider ourselves unofficially engaged and last weekend we decided on our budget. I’m just waiting for that official proposal, which sounds a lot like your situation.