(Closed) He has the ring!!!…sort of….:/ (long)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What should we do about the engagement ring?
    Keep the family setting I like, and replace the stone with a loose diamond when we visit SO's mom. : (20 votes)
    71 %
    Try to convince SO to just order an entire new ring online (from Blue Nile, or similar) : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Just use the family ring with the diamond already in it and give up the notion of a "dream ring." : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Look for other settings while we're visiting SO's mom to use with the diamond we already have. : (5 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I voted to use the setting but I want to see a picture of it! πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Agree with PP, need to see pics. But this is one reason why I don’t believe Shut It Up is always the best approach. Sounds like things worked out well for you in the end!

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    i haven’t voted because i want pics! πŸ˜‰ but i think you should do what makes you happy. it seems like what you want is doable and within SO budget so make a dream ring if you can!

    ps the “fight” you had sounds pretty similar to what has happened at my place. thanks for making me feel normal πŸ˜‰

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    double post sorry

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Sorry about the fight, but it sounds like you guys worked it out and at least moved forward in your communication because of it, so that’s good! As for the ring problem… I say do what you want! If getting a new ring is not out of the picture for financial reasons, and it sounds like your SO is open to a new ring, then why not do that? You’ll have to wear it for the rest of your life, so it should be something you love. As for the family rings having sentimental value, whatever you choose will have meaning for you two as a couple. That being said, if your ideal solution is the family setting you like with a new stone, then go for that! It sounds like your SO just wants you to be happy. And congratulations on your impending engagement!

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    First off you are so lucky to have so many options available for you from his family! that is so sweet! I voted to keep the ring you love and replace it with a real diamond. you love the setting…it may not be 18kt, but maybe you could get an 18kt wedding band and pair it with it? I think both family rings are just lovely, and all the real diamond ring is a bit dated it is just lovely, and has a very nice vintage feel!! Is there something else you really love from bluenile already (sense you posted blue nile as the reference for the new ring?) If so talk to him about that as well!! I just realised I’m probably no help atm but good luck and it will all work out:-)

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Ceyx54:  the first is definitely a little dated. I love the second setting though. Very classic and pretty!

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee

    I think both are absolutely lovely! Lucky lady!

    Post # 12
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    Worker bee

    Out of the choices you provided, I chose ordering something new off BN.

     

    – You can’t change that 6 prong solitaire to fit an asscher. You just can’t. It doesn’t appear to be a peg head, where you can just remove the head to put another head in. It can fit another round stone, of approximately the same dimensions.

    – I doubt you’ll find another setting that will fit the real diamond EXACTLY. Again, it’s the issue with the head of the ring. Rings are made to fit exact dimensions. The dimensions can waver maybe 1mm or so, but not much.

     

    Figure out your center stone situation FIRST, if you’re going to use his family stone or if you’re going to buy a new one. THEN, have a jeweler make you a ring for that particular stone. It’s much harder to find stones with specific dimensions to fit a setting, than it is to find a stone and create a setting for it.

    Also.. are you sure you want an 18kt YG ring? YG is really malleable. I remember talking to a jeweler once, who refused to make me a ring with 18k YG because it would bend out of shape too easily. It works best on thicker settings.

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee

    No problem, sweetie. If you’re sentimental about old pieces, you can search for a jeweler who is willing to melt down your gold to recreate a piece.

    I actually do not recommend BN. I recommend James Allen much more. Is your 3.5k-ish budget for both diamond AND setting? James Allen recently added a bunch of affordable yet BEAUTIFUL settings to their inventory.

    If the 3.5k is your budget for the FULL ring, I suggest you save the most of the budget for the center diamond.. Laughing you can always change your setting, later, to a fancier one. It’s much harder/expensive to change the diamond.

     

    http://www.jamesallen.com/engagement-rings/solitaire-rings/

     

    The first one is available for $440 in 18k YG..
    But my preference would be that almost-exact T&Co 6 prong “inspired by” for $925.
    http://www.jamesallen.com/engagement-rings/solitaire/18k-yellow-gold-six-prong-knife-edged-solitaire-engagement-ring-handmade-17192y.html
    or this one with such a pretty basket for $850:
    http://www.jamesallen.com/engagement-rings/solitaire/18k-yellow-gold-tapered-six-prong-filigree-basket-solitaire-engagement-ring.html

    Plus, their diamond prices are ~equal or even more competitive than BN, and they can give you blown up images of the diamond, for you to inspect. BN does NOT give those images.

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