Post # 1
My fiance already knows who he wants as his groomsmen, but he hasn’t actually asked them yet. I on the other hand have already asked my bridesmaids, we picked out the dress, and I bought their gifts just last night (it was an item I had my eye on and was waiting to go on sale). Now I know I’m a bit of a quick draw when I feel confident of something…but is it just me or is he moving ESPECIALLY slow? None of the groomsmen live especially far away so it’s not like they need to buy a plane ticket.
Our wedding is in September, shouldn’t he have already officially asked his groomsmen by now? If so, do I pester/remind him to do it?
Post # 3
It took my Fiance longer to ask his guys than it took for me to ask my girls. I don’t think it’s as big of a deal to guys.. but I would tell him to ask soon.. it’s only 9 months away!
Post # 4
My FH did the exact same thing. I wouldnt worry about it, but yeah, maybe pester him some.
Post # 5
I think he still has time though not too much time. Maybe he’s waiting for a specific time or event to ask them like a boys’ night out or a meetup. Guys run on a different social time schedule than women.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
It took my Fiance a long time to ask his guys too; he kept waiting for the right moment for each of them. I think you still have a good amount of time 🙂
Post # 7
my Fiance hasn’t asked either yet!! but he better hurry so i can order ties etc.
Post # 8
I think you have plenty of time. My husband asked his groomsmen between 6 and 4 months before the wedding and everything worked out great. Tuxes are much easier to order than dresses 🙂
Post # 9
Your wedding is still 9 months away.
My Darling Husband was best man in his best friends wedding and Darling Husband didn’t even know it until I asked 4 days before the wedding.
Best Friend never “officially” asked Darling Husband to be in the wedding. They have been best friends for 15 years at the time and and Darling Husband knew that he was in the wedding. But so was 3 other guys. I asked Darling Husband what role he was playing and he wasn’t able to answer anything other than “I don’t know”
While the guys were trying on suits and getting some final arrangements done just days before the wedding I just happened to ask what part Darling Husband was playing to which we finally found out Best Man.
It doesn’t take nearly as long for men to get their stuff together as it does the women. I would say let it be for another few months. Give him till at list mid/late spring
Post # 10
Our wedding is in July and Fiance still hasn’t asked his last two he wants. I’m OCD so of course its making me freak out but I figure as long as they know at least 4 months ahead of time that is fine. So your Fiance still has time.
Post # 11
I had to pester Fiance to officially ask all of his guys too – I think it’s pretty typical. Maybe just figure out why it’s important to you to have them asked now and then just have a conversation with him about it. Have him figure out a timeline of when he thinks he’ll be able to ask them.
Keep in mind that bridesmaids/groomsmen don’t have to be equal in number, so even if one of his friends can’t be in it, it has no bearing on you and your bridesmaids. And you won’t really have to know who is in it until you order tuxes (probably don’t have to have measurements in until a month before) and print your programs, right?
Post # 12
For a September wedding, I wouldn’t worry till June and I wouldn’t nag till early August.
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s a big deal. There isn’t nearly as much involved for groomsmen as there is for bridesmaids. My Fiance was going to ask his Bridesmaid or Best Man (we only have one person standing for us each) in December, but I asked him to wait to be sure that’s who he wants. Unlike Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, suits and tuxes don’t take donkey’s years to come in, they don’t need hair and makeup booked, etc.
I figure he won’t have his Bridesmaid or Best Man decided on until April, which is lots of time.
Post # 14
My wedding is in August and Fiance hasn’t asked his guys either. No biggie. Getting suits and ties takes very little time. I agree with PP – don’t worry until June and don’t nag until August.
Post # 15
Our wedding is in June and my Fiance still has to ask one groomsmen. He’s still trying to decide between two people, and I figure as long as he knows by April, it’s fine 🙂 He’s just asking everyone to wear a black suit with a white shirt, and they will probably get some kind of matching tie, so they won’t need the time to get outfits.
Post # 16
I am in the exact same boat! I asked my girls back in April 2012 for my September 2013 wedding. My FH still han’t asked anyone but my Brother. One of the groomsmen needs to get a plane ticket and the other has a busy work schedule to work around. I am getting super anxious waiting for him to do it already.