(Closed) He hasn’t looked at rings

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
4831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@beekitten: At this point I think you need to keep quiet until after the new year. He knows where you stand, and it seems like he knows what he said as well.

As hard as it is, stay quiet until at least a bit of January has passed. Due to tight timelines now, he may not be able to get a ring and propose until slightly after the new year so give him a few week window if you can.

((Hugs)) to you. Hang in there. It sounds like you’ve had all the talks with him you need to have, now it’s time for him to show his stuff.

Post # 5
4831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@beekitten: I actually made a bit of a fool of myself with my now DH. We had discussed and decided on a timeline of the end of August 2010.

The last weekend of August came and went and that Sunday night, I had a breakdown.

He proposed the next weekend. The ring was actually IN his closet at that point, but he wanted to get it appraised and insured before proposing so he needed one more week to get everything in order for the proposal. I felt so silly the next Friday because of my outburst 5 days earlier.

That’s why I suggest a bit of lee way as well, it may take a tad bit longer than he expects for everything to come together.

Post # 6
3872 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with @KatNYC2011: I was stressing about my fiance not wanting to look at rings right before we got engaged, not knowing he already HAD a ring and wanted to surprise me.  He teases me about that now lol.  You SO might be trying to throw you off, or ring shopping might be harder for him than he expected.  But it seems like things are on track, and it will be okay 🙂  Hang in there dear!

Post # 8
83 posts
Worker bee

Maybe he is tryng to suprise you. Do you think he is going to say oh it went great I have it? Hopefully that is the case!

Post # 11
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I bugged my Fiance constantly, which I regret. It took a lot of the fun and surprise out of it. We sort of had a “timeline” – I was moving back to America at the end of October, so it had to be before then! He kept saying he didn’t have the money, didn’t have the ring yet (I only asked that once because I just couldn’t resist, and he wasn’t lying – at that time the ring hadn’t come yet!), and that we could get engaged when he came to visit at the beginning of 2012. I decided to finally stop nagging and enjoy the time, and not be so obsessed with waiting for the proposal, and I’m so glad I did. He proposed at the beginning of October, on our trip to Norway, and it was a complete surprise and completely wonderful.

My advice, like many PP, is don’t worry about it!! He’ll probably surprise you – especially if he makes you wait a bit after your deadline!

Post # 12
12326 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Are you just he’s not just trying to throw you off?  For all you *really* know, he still wants to try to surprise you.  I didnt live with my husband, but I stayed with him from after work on Friday, till work on Monday, we work at the same company, and i knew his routine.  He’d get home and turn his comptuer which automatically logged him online.  There was no way to sneak out and buy a ring, but he managed to do it on the only two days that I was busy.  Maybe he already has it and is just trying to trick you?  I’d give him until New Years like he said, and then maybe a week grace period, then talk to him again. 

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