(Closed) He hasn’t put a ring on it, but he also can’t stop talking about weddings….

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh man. I love your response to it. Although.. are you waiting on a proposal? If so you should have finished with “stop bringing up weddings..unless you intend to do something about it!”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

That’s funny. So, question: How did he respond when you told him to cut it out?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Don’t get me wrong. I like opportunities to talk about other people’s weddings with my guy (they are rare) but it is nicer when it’s about your own. 🙂 Is it just one of those crazy, exception weeks where everyone is getting married or do you think he’s warming up to the idea? Or both?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

But it’s also probably good that he is bringing it up instead of you. That way you can still talk about it without coming across as pushy or obsessed. Personally, I’d think he’s warming up to the idea. I’ve found more often that guys who are terrified of marriage avoid uttering the word. But the ones who are really into the idea don’t hesitate to discuss. My SO’s old roommate is getting married next week and before he got engaged he was always talking to us about the ring, how he was going to propose, who was going to come to the wedding. He was truly excited. You know how when you get that one awesome gift for someone but you have to wait to give it to them and it feels like you’re gonna burst at the seams keeping it a secret? There’s always that chance he could be going through that. Or maybe he’s started to think about you guys getting hitched and this is his way of talking about it without really talking about it.

I know waiting sucks. 🙂 But I guess the silver lining is he doesn’t shy away from the word, which is always a good sign.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

my bf does the same thing. i love talking about this stuff with him, but later i am mad because i know he’s not ready and he’s teasing me. so i tell myself next time i will ask him to stop unless he’s serious… and then i enjoy it too much again! haha.

some guys will talk about weddings when they initially are thinking about it to feel out your response, but i would agree when they get close to the actual proposal they shut up about it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wish mine would even talk about marriage. I am usually the one who brings it up but I have been trying really hard to not mention anything about it lately. I wish he would bring it up more so I know he is thinking about it you know? I agree with the other ladies in that he might be feeling you out to make sure you are still going to say yes. I think it’s a bit mean if he is only doing it to tease you about it but it doesn’t sound like he is doing with any sort of mean spirit.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with everyone else on the thread, I understand that it’s irritating when he wants to talk about weddings when he seems to not be on the same page as you about actually getting married.  My guy does this too occasionally.  At first it really annoyed me and I responded negatively (I said something like “I don’t want to talk and joke about it unless we’re talking about us, for real”)  but now I think it’s a way for him to get comfortable with the idea for himself.  I think all the references might be opportunities for you to transition to a conversation about being married.

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