He hates ball gowns

posted 1 year ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Have you shown him this specific dress, or he has just stated he hates ballgowns in general?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I don’t think you can get pockets on fitted dresses, your best bet will be an A-line or ballgown. I think you should go with what you love though!

also I have to laugh that he doesn’t think ballgowns are right for a wedding, it’s like the one day a normal person can wear a ballgown.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Bee it sounds like there is a lot about this wedding that you are being talked into and are not happy about. How long have you known your fiancé? Your post history says you were single 7 months ago?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

happycomelately :  your Fiance is wrong. Ballgowns are quite common for weddings. He shouldn’t be trying to pick your dress. I get that you want to please him, but he is going to ,love you in whatever you choose and you should choose what you love and will feel comfortable in. 

lots of guys say this about ballgowns and “puffy” dresses and then love their brides in a ballgown. Sometimes I think when asked they just say what they think they’re supposed to say about big dresses. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I think you should wear the dress of your dreams. Honestly, the silhouette of your dress should be the last thing on his mind on your wedding day.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I say wear whatever dress you love.  When your walking down the Isle to him, he’s not going to be thinking “oh it’s a ballgown”, he’s going to be thinking how beautiful you look and be excited to be marrying you.  It’s the one day you can wear a ballgown, or whatever dress you chose.  He won’t be disappointed.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

Well, when he picks out his own wedding dress, he is free to wear whatever style he wants and is under no obligation to wear a ball gown.

Likewise, you are free to wear whatever you want.  Your body, your choice. 

Do you discuss all your wardrobe choices with him?  Did he pick out the outfit you are wearing right now?  This is such a non-issue except for the part where you seem to be unable to think for yourself or assert your wants to the person you are about to marry.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Stop discussing your dress with your fiancé and pick out the one that you want!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

If he doesn’t love ballgowns, then he doesn’t have to wear one. He picks his suit, you pick your dress. You are the one wearing it. Pick what you love!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Have you tried on different styles (ex: A-line)? Does a ball gown fit the venue and theme of your wedding? I suggest trying on different styles and If you absolutely do not find another dress you like, get the ball gown. 

Full disclosure: I always saw my self in a mermaid dress but my husband did not particularly like the style (plus my mom thought them too sexy). I tried on other styles and ended up with a mermaid dress. My husband thought I looked phenomenal in our wedding day. You only get married once so wear what you feel most beautiful in.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

You shouldn’t tell your fiance ANYTHING about the dress, not even the color!! We hold the opinions of our men in such a high regard that disagreement about something as emotional as a wedding dress really puts us in an emotional imbalance and skews our vision and self-knowledge. 

And you know men! They’re ALWAYS going to have their preferences, but dammit, when they see you walking down that aisle, they’re gonna love you so much, whether you’re wearing a ballgown or a mermaid style. 

Get the dress you love. Walk down that aisle. And he will love it, because you will be wearing it. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Wear what you want. My man also didn’t want me in a ballgown (I didn’t want it either but I LOVED trying them on and almost bought one!) And at the end of the day he told me he doesn’t care what I wear as long as he gets to marry me. I think your fiance will think you’re beautiful in anything you choose. Besides, choosing something YOU love will make you feel so confident on your wedding day and that’s what will really shine through. 

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