Post # 1
I absolutely love this lace wedding dress with pockets from David’s Bridal. It is a ball gowns and it fits me amazingly. It even has Criss-Cross straps for a fun feel. My fiance hates ball gowns and doesn’t want me to get it simply because it’s a ball gown. I’m a little heartbroken because I love this dress so much. I want this dress but I also want him to be happy with what I wear. Does anyone know where I can get a fitted wedding dress with pockets? The one thing I have to have his pockets it’s number one on my list.
Post # 2
Have you shown him this specific dress, or he has just stated he hates ballgowns in general?
Post # 3
He refuses to look at the dress because he thinks it’s bad luck to see the dress before the wedding. But when I told him it’s a ball gown he said he didn’t like ball gowns he doesn’t think they look right for a wedding.
Post # 4
I don’t think you can get pockets on fitted dresses, your best bet will be an A-line or ballgown. I think you should go with what you love though!
also I have to laugh that he doesn’t think ballgowns are right for a wedding, it’s like the one day a normal person can wear a ballgown.
Post # 5
I’m so upset right now. It’s the dress of my dreams. It fits perfectly and has a straight across neckline and it’s plain lace with pockets exactly what I wanted. I’m already following a bunch of wedding traditions I didn’t want to do like having a bridal party. I didn’t want to have a bridal party. Mainly because I’m not close to any of my family that way. Short version this my older cousins always talked about my size and they always talked down to me about my education (2 yr degree) anyway because I’m not close to any of them I never wanted a bridal party but he begged so I gave in LOL
Post # 6
Bee it sounds like there is a lot about this wedding that you are being talked into and are not happy about. How long have you known your fiancé? Your post history says you were single 7 months ago?
Post # 7
happycomelately : your Fiance is wrong. Ballgowns are quite common for weddings. He shouldn’t be trying to pick your dress. I get that you want to please him, but he is going to ,love you in whatever you choose and you should choose what you love and will feel comfortable in.
lots of guys say this about ballgowns and “puffy” dresses and then love their brides in a ballgown. Sometimes I think when asked they just say what they think they’re supposed to say about big dresses.
Post # 8
I think you should wear the dress of your dreams. Honestly, the silhouette of your dress should be the last thing on his mind on your wedding day.
Post # 9
I say wear whatever dress you love. When your walking down the Isle to him, he’s not going to be thinking “oh it’s a ballgown”, he’s going to be thinking how beautiful you look and be excited to be marrying you. It’s the one day you can wear a ballgown, or whatever dress you chose. He won’t be disappointed.
Post # 10
Well, when he picks out his own wedding dress, he is free to wear whatever style he wants and is under no obligation to wear a ball gown.
Likewise, you are free to wear whatever you want. Your body, your choice.
Do you discuss all your wardrobe choices with him? Did he pick out the outfit you are wearing right now? This is such a non-issue except for the part where you seem to be unable to think for yourself or assert your wants to the person you are about to marry.
Post # 11
Stop discussing your dress with your fiancé and pick out the one that you want!
Post # 12
If he doesn’t love ballgowns, then he doesn’t have to wear one. He picks his suit, you pick your dress. You are the one wearing it. Pick what you love!
Post # 13
Have you tried on different styles (ex: A-line)? Does a ball gown fit the venue and theme of your wedding? I suggest trying on different styles and If you absolutely do not find another dress you like, get the ball gown.
Full disclosure: I always saw my self in a mermaid dress but my husband did not particularly like the style (plus my mom thought them too sexy). I tried on other styles and ended up with a mermaid dress. My husband thought I looked phenomenal in our wedding day. You only get married once so wear what you feel most beautiful in.
Post # 14
You shouldn’t tell your fiance ANYTHING about the dress, not even the color!! We hold the opinions of our men in such a high regard that disagreement about something as emotional as a wedding dress really puts us in an emotional imbalance and skews our vision and self-knowledge.
And you know men! They’re ALWAYS going to have their preferences, but dammit, when they see you walking down that aisle, they’re gonna love you so much, whether you’re wearing a ballgown or a mermaid style.
Get the dress you love. Walk down that aisle. And he will love it, because you will be wearing it.
Post # 15
Wear what you want. My man also didn’t want me in a ballgown (I didn’t want it either but I LOVED trying them on and almost bought one!) And at the end of the day he told me he doesn’t care what I wear as long as he gets to marry me. I think your fiance will think you’re beautiful in anything you choose. Besides, choosing something YOU love will make you feel so confident on your wedding day and that’s what will really shine through.