Post # 1
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Honey bee
I hate people just taking my picture as well, but I would like pictures of the two of us together you know? He basically refuses to have his picture taken, i am really worried about the wedding if he is dodging the camera the whole time i am going to be furious! Anyone else have this problem or know how to maybe get him past that… or should i respect the fact he doesn’t like pictures and not have any pictures of him or us together…? I am desperate, I would like to have some pictures before we are married and he is leaving in two months for boot camp and training!
Post # 3
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
Sounds like you guys need at least one engagement session done with your wedding day photographer. We hardly have any pictures of us together (before the wedding) but I think hubs just accepted the fact that we were going to be getting our pictures taken on our wedding day and he just had to suck it up.
Post # 4
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4605 posts
Honey bee
My FH and I have been together 2 years, and I only have 15 pictures with him. And I took those after we’d been together 4 months, so I get where you’re coming from. It’s frustrating, I know, but I highly doubt he’ll avoid pictures with you on your wedding day. Sadly, I can’t offer any advice for you about how to get him to take pictures, but maybe he’ll come around every now and then.
Post # 5
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3758 posts
Honey bee
he is kind of worse than a girl in the fact that he doesn’t like how he looks LOL I think he is perfect the way he is, my problem is i don’t know that i will have money for an engagement session before he goes to boot camp =( I guess i will just torment him and make him take pics with me until he gives in! haha 😉
Post # 6
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I really sympathise with you – Mr Jag is VERY self conscious and hates photos. We’ve talked about it a lot – and he’s prepared to give it his all for the e-shots and wedding day.. he knows how much it means to me, and he’s willing to put up with it all. Maybe if you just explain how important it is to you, he’ll work with you on this one. Good luck! x
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
First of all I’m sorry! That would be very frustrating to me. Second of all, my best advice is to do all you can to make him look as best as he possibly can. Spend a little extra time and money on him then maybe you normally wood. Get him a hair cut and some new clothes. Make sure he feels that he looks great which will ease that at least some.
If you don’t already have a photographer make sure the both of you pick a photog out that you are both comfortable with. The more comfortable your SO is the less he will feel like some random is sticking a camera in his face and more like a friend asked the two of you to gather for a shot.
Do your best to keep the photos to a minimum. Do NOT just avoid photography. Your SO has to understand that you want to remember this day somehow! After the initial important photos are taken request that your photographer be as candid as possible. I have heard from many brides that they were so caught up in the day that they barely noticed the photographer at the reception. You guys will be busy with guests and eating and all other activities he won’t even notice that someone is taking his picture.
Post # 8
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3758 posts
Honey bee
@MsBrooklynA: thanks =) those are some great ideas!
Post # 9
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161 posts
Blushing bee
So does my Fiance. Every picture he looks like a deer in headlights. Our E-pics were pretty much a bust and I’m so afriad it will be the same for our wedding photos.
Post # 10
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3758 posts
Honey bee
he hides from cameras… i am afraid all of our pictures he will have something in front of his face!
Post # 11
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2790 posts
Sugar bee
No problem!! Also, make sure your photographer is aware of his phobia. 🙂 lol They will then understand the need to be inconspicuous that day and maybe use a longer lens to creep from afar!
Post # 12
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3758 posts
Honey bee
haha thats funny and oh so true!
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
My fiance is the same way, unfortunately. We do have pictures of us together, but I practically have to pull his teeth to take them. I was worried about the wedding, too, but then I got over it quickly because I realized he’s just going to have to suck it up for the big day 😉
Post # 14
Hostess
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@JoJo Bananas: Agreed, have you done your E-photo session yet? That might be a great way to break the ice with him and your photographer and get him comfortable with the fact that pictures are a necessary evil with weddings (if we wants a happy bride/wife).
My man hates photos as well and has come to terms with the fact that for a day he will have to bite the bullet, it is the least he can do right? 😉