(Closed) He hates my dress

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would just keep it because he won’t remember. Besides you will be all dolled up the day of and it will be hardly recognizable. If you love it and clearly your mom loves it, then I’m sure it was just the picture he didn’t like and not the actual dress. Store lightning isn’t the greatest anyhow and the pictures never do the dress justice in that environment. Be confident in your decision, I’m sure it’s a beautiful dress that will take his breath away. 

Post # 3
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Either you posted this exact same thing a few weeks ago under a different screen name or I’m having serious de ja vu. You really have two choices. You love the dress so wear it proudly or forfeit your deposit and take him dress shopping with you so he can pick one out for you. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

He is not marrying the dress, he is marrying the person in it so as long as he loves the person in it it’s all good.

The person in it, however, has to love it, because your day is a big one and you need to feel 100% terrific.

While we all want to impress those we love, we can’t all have a 100% strike rate. My guess is that your Fiance is giving about 2 seconds thought to your bridal gown. It is probably the least important thing about this wedding to him so wear your beautiful dress and put your concerns behind you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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liz3323:  When I bought my dress, I showed Darling Husband a bunch of pictures of wedding gowns but not on me. They were on the models. In between those pictures, I put my dress. 

Out of all the dresses I showed him, my dress is the only one he didn’t particularly like. Guess what? I really didn’t give a damn! 

First of all, seeing the dress on you now vs seeing it on your wedding day, is completely different! Hair, makeup, accessories and undergarments, plus a well fitted gown…. He won’t even know it is the same dress.

My husband didn’t know! And he LLOOOVVVEEEDDD my dress. 

Besides, do NOT pick a wedding gown based on your FIs tastes. You go for the wedding gown you’ve always dreamed of, because you only get to do this once!!!! 

My husband loves mermaid gowns. I’ll be nice and say I’m not “fond” of them. I wore a ballgown. 

i hope this helped haha

Post # 6
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I wouldn’t worry at all. 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

That happen to my BFF.  her Darling Husband didn’t like it. A few onther people told her they liked other ones better. But she got the dress. 

anyway that girl rocked that dress!  She felt so comfortable. She glowed. And everyone loved it.  

ignore him. You’ll look great. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I disagree with those who say he won’t remember…not all men are the same. I would see if the shop could apply the deposit towards a different dress in the store asap. The shop I bought my dress from allowed me to do so and no money was lost.

Post # 10
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I try to dress for myself and slightly consider my husband…

So I’d keep it! If it flatters you and you love it, then that will show and he will love it too on the big day! If that plan isn’t for you, then I’d go to the shop and see if you can transfer that deposit to a different dress. Take him with you and have him pick such out. Or better yet, grab a few pics and see what styles he likes. That way you know his taste and your day of look will still be a surprise.

 

Post # 11
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Newbee

I would not worry about it at all. I (mistakenly) took my fiancé with me dress shopping since we live so far away from friends and family because of the Navy. I was sick of going alone so I thought he could help me find my dress and I just wouldnt tell him which one I picked so it would still be a surprise to him. i had also tried on over 30 dresses before I took him and didn’t really like anything. Anyways we went to two shops and at the second bridal shop I fell in love with my dress. It felt amazing and I kept going back to it. I had like three at that shop and planned on going back to pick one of the three. As we were leaving I started to say “dress #1, I loved it” but he interrupted me and said “ya that one looked like trash”. I was crushed because I had tried on so many dresses and that was the only one I liked. I decides right then and there I wouldn’t get that dress because I didn’t want to walk down the aisle and have his first thought be “oh she got the trash dress”. Several appointments and dresses later I never found anything better. I started looking for dresses that looked similar but had something different like beading or lace so I could still get the same dress he just wouldn’t know it. I was just about to pay $999 for a very similar dress with lace and at the last min I went with my gut and bought the “trash” dress. i am going to add a beaded sash to dress it up a little but i know he won’t remember and might even think it’s a different dress and two, I know once I’m all decked out with hair, makeup, and veil I will be beautiful especially to him and at that moment he wouldn’t care or notice what I am wearing. I think all that matters is that you love your dress and try not to think about his thoughts. Most guys don’t know anything about wedding fashion anyways. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

A lot of dudes are frankly terrible at imagining the full ‘look’ of the dress + you + all dolled up with accessories, veil, etc. vs a model in the stock photo. I showed my fiance a few stock photos of dresses I was considering and I tried on the one he claimed to like best and immediately knew that neither of us would find the reality very impressive. 😛 Whereas he claimed to dislike all the very full skirted options, which is WAY more my style and a shape of dress he always likes me in. 

So tldr – dudes rarely know what they’re talking about re: dresses. You’re gonna be jaw droppingly beautiful. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

THIS is why I went dress shopping alone and didn’t show even my BM’s the dress until right before the day…and I didn’t give my Darling Husband even a HINT about what my dress looked like. 

After my ‘first dress disaster’ (long story), I knew it was important to me that history not repeat itself, and my second dress would be the dress that made me happy, and that I wasn’t influenced by others wants and tastes. It was important to me that the dress I wore was the dress that really said “[Snowflake8]”. Even if my Darling Husband somehow saw it and didn’t like it, I wouldn’t have cared!

If you love it, wear it! 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I agree with almost everyone else. When he sees you on your wedding day, the very, very last thing on his mind will be that you showed him that dress however long ago. He’ll only be thinking how much he loves you and how beautiful you are.

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