(Closed) He is a procrastinator, will i ever get my proposal.

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3993 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Have you guys talked about getting engaged? Maybe he needs something to get the ball rolling.

Post # 4
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with  @AmeliaBedelia and I would definitely get a feel for where he’s at…he just may not be ready.

If he seems open to it, start sending pictures of rings you like, or even go try rings on together.


Post # 5
49 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Garden of the Gods

If you’re feeling this way about him, are you sure you want to marry him?

I waited 7 years for my engagement ring. We lived together for over 6. Sometimes they need more than a subtle hint. Have you talked about his expectations of marriage? My DH had absolutely no intention of thinking about marriage until we were together for 5 years.

Good luck!

Post # 6
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I dated my Fiance for FIVE years before he asked me. It will be six years in may and seven by the time we get married! I totally feel your pain! 

We started talking about it before he proposed. Turns out, he was really nervous to ask because he wasn’t sure if I wanted to get married young. He was also really scared to buy a ring and didn’t know what kind of jewelry I like (i’m not a big jewelry person). 

I reassured him that I definitely wanted him to ask. I gave him a list of things i wanted in a ring, as well as a few links to rings I liked. He didn’t go with any of the ones I chose, but got a very similar one of better quality. 

About six months after we had “the talk”, he asked me! 

I’d suggest doing the same, talk to him about it and let him know how much you adore him. Sometimes men need that reassurance just like we do! 

If you think he might not be open to “the talk”, then just bring it up casually, without being obvious about your intentions. if you have a friend who was just engaged, you can mention it in passing. Just to get the idea in his head. 

Like the other bees said, he might not be ready. Don’t pressure him!

Post # 8
3974 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Unfortunately, if he already knows you want to get engaged and he is on the same page, there isn’t much you can do now besides wait. 🙁 Try and keep your mind off it with other activities. Have you seen Mr. Bee’s three step plan to getting engaged?

About the last part you wrote in your last comment: did you want to have imput in your engagement ring purchase? If so, you should tell him you’d at least like him to look at the styles you like.

Next time, you may want to post posts like this to the waiting board. They can sympathize with you since they’re all women waiting for a proposal.

Post # 9
25 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

Also you said “I don’t want that” therefore, you need to make a tough decision whether or not to continue in the relationship.  These are signs that shouldn’t be overlooked. If he’s doing it now before the marriage he probably will be doing the same thing while married.  

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