Post # 1
I just talked to one of my new guy friends who I work with and my SO has met a couple of times. We were slightly drunk, I will admit, but we were talking about our relationships (he broke up with his gf but they may be getting back together) and what our plans were. I told him that we had been talking about buying a house together and he was super excited for us. Then I told him how I said not until we were engaged and he said “good! you laid down the law!” And I continued about how my SO agreed and my friend smiled and nodded his head.
Then told him about my SO wanting to buy a house by August and me asking if we’ll be engaged by then and said exactly what my SO said to me (“I don’t know”) and showed him the look my SO gave me (huge, shy, avoiding-eye-contact smile).
My guy friend, without hesitation, said “that’s a yes; he’s going to propose.”
HOLY SHIT!!!!!!! A straight male confirmed my suspicions!!!!
What about y’all? Any guy friends have opinions on when/if your SO is going to propose?
Post # 4
That’s cool. I don’t have any guy friends that I am close enough to ask. I hope he’s right and it happens soon for you!
Post # 5
That’s cool, but don’t get *too* excited just yet, unless your SO told your friend that it was absolutely happening.
Post # 6
My male friends and family are split 50/50. When I tell them what my SO does or says or facial expressions, half say it’s definitely coming, the other half say it’s kind of “cruel” that he does these things but hasn’t proposed yet, and tell me to prepare for the worst.
Post # 7
Well ladies, it’s definitely happening!!!!!!! I just talked to him the night before last and was very firm after he gave a semi-new but very legitimate “I don’t have enough money” excuse. I said that it only costs $75 to get an engagement ring and he of course was swayed by society and wanted to get me something nicer. I put my foot down and said that I didn’t want that and it was not financially smart to spend money on a ring when we’re trying to buy a house. He agreed but I sensed he wasn’t completely satisfied. I also said I just want to get this show on the road, lol.
Last night, however, I was a liiiiitle tipsy when I talked to him and brought it up again. I said that I meant what I said and that it’s important to me that the e-ring be a gem that we found gem mining and that I used to want a $5 ring so this is a step up for me! Then he said “Well then maybe we can find something good this weekend”
OMG!!!!! He also said we would get engaged in 1-2 months!
Post # 8
I hope you are right! I would probably leave the topic alone for a while so he has his own time and space to think. Just show him what you like etc and don’t ask about “how is it going”
Post # 9
@LaurenK0105: I agree with the others… Don’t get your hopes up just yet. He could be saying that just because if HE was in that situation, that’s what HE would be doing. I’ve learned my lesson well NOT to listen to friends regarding this issue. Back at Christmas my friends told me that J asked them about rings and how much they paid, etc. They also told me that my suspisions (of J ring shopping) were correct.
Fast forward 4 months later and still no ring. Alls I’m saying is be cautious. Don’t get your hopes up because it’ll lead to disappointment if nothing happens when you expect it to.
Post # 10
@LaurenK0105:i think most of us have at one point or another been so ready to get engaged that we’ve said that the ultimate ring wasn’t a necessity… But in reality, you’ll probably regret the $5 ring and want something else later in life. Something precious, like the relationship itself. When we ask them to just get it over with using something cheap, it takes away from letting them decide what to getcha
Post # 11
@OmigoshesGrrrl: I’m not asking for a $5 ring anymore, the one that I want is about $75. And I’m different than most girls and my SO knows that. I have never ever liked jewelry one bit. In fact, I would say that I hate the majority of jewelry and believe that the simpler, the better. I didn’t even know that one would wear an engagement ring for their whole life until a few months ago and I’m still not sure how I feel about that.
For me the “ultimate ring” is the opposite of a “necessity” and for 4/5 of my life, I didn’t even want an engagement ring at all. I’m not asking for the $75 ring out of desperation or done-ness, I’m asking for the $75 ring because that’s what I want! To me, it’s so much more meaningful to have a gemstone that I love and that I found digging in a gem mine with my SO. How freaking cool is that? I’ll be one of the few people who can say that we literally dug up and found my engagement stone.