(Closed) Devastated: Grandfather passed away.

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Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so, so sorry.  I am sure his life was so much better because you were in it.  He knows he is loved.  I am glad you were able to talk with him in the hospital.  Sending you postive thoughts at this difficult time.

Post # 4
2908 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad that you had that last evening with him – I think you’ll always be grateful for that time. Try to remember that when people say “He’s in a better place” they mean well, even if the vast majority of people who have lost a loved one do NOT find that sentiment comforting. You aren’t selfish for wanting him here with you, not at all. I’m so sorry.


Post # 5
2022 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I know that it is hard to lose someone that you love.  I am praying for you and your family.

Post # 6
542 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry about your loss. It may never “sink in” but you will definitely get back to a time where the first things that come to mind are your happy memories, instead of sadness and missing him. 

Post # 7
8878 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart breaks for you. 

Your situation sounds simliar to when my grandfather passed away from cancer (I was the last to see him, he was barely conscious and so frail but the light in his eyes came back when I spoke to him). Just remember that his last memory was of you and I am sure he was so happy that you were there.

Surround yourself with loved ones and take the time to grieve. *Hugs*

Post # 8
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am so so so sorry. i am praying for you and your family!

Post # 10
11533 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m so very, very sorry,

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My DH just conducted, and I attended, a funeral earlier today of a dear man from our church, who passed away after less than a month of being ill, and one of his granddaughters spoke during the service. She had such wonderful things to say and special memories to share of her grandfather.  The fact that your grandfather was both grandfather and father to you must compound your loss immensely.

In his sermon, DH addressed the fact of this gentleman now being in a much better place with Jesus, but he also spoke of how it is absolutely OK for his family to be sad and to grieve the loss of him here and now, with them.

I pray that the Lord will comfort you and bring you peace as you begin to process this immeasurable loss.


Post # 11
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So sorry for your loss. Know that eventhough he won’t be physically with you that he will be shining down on you on your special day. 

Post # 12
2963 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i’m so sorry for your loss. i lost my grandmother  just a few weeks ago, so i know exactly how you’re feeling. her health went downhill pretty quickly, just like your grandpa’s. i’m just glad my husband and i got married last year instead of this year, like we had originally planned, so she was able to see me get married. i still can’t believe she’s gone.

it’s going to hurt for a while, but take all the time you need to grieve and cry when you need to cry. you’re in my prayers.

Post # 13
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

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@Treejewel19:  I’m so sorry, and I know that doesn’t help much, but I am…..for every special person in my life that I’ve lost, there’s a place for us and us alone….with my Grandma it’s when I sit at what used to be her vanity to do my makeup every morning, my Grandpa it’s actually inside the building I work at now….and it isn’t often, but every once in a while I’ll be there and their memory will resound in my mind…..I’ll hear her telling me that only bad girls got their ears pierced, I’ll run across an old file with his handwriting….and I feel like an old friend drove by and waved, no time to stop, but a passing gesture that reminds me while we may be far apart, we’re closer than I could ever know.

Go to your place, that special place and let it wash through you, it’s going to hurt, and some souls, we just never get over losing….but we heal around it, and carry a scar only we know about, and we may limp the rest of our lives over it, but at least that serves as a reminder of how deep loves runs.

Post # 14
1847 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I am so, so sorry. 🙁

Post # 15
2267 posts
Buzzing bee

@Treejewel19:  I’m so sorry for your loss.

I lost my grandfather two years ago and while he didn’t raise me (my mum did) he was the only male role model in my life and we were very close, so I can understand the emptiness and devastation you feel.

As much as you will despise anyone who says this, things will get better. It will hurt less and you will reach a place where you can remember him, the moments you shared, the happiness you had together and you will smile rather then cry.

For now, allow yourself time to grieve, cry and be angry that he was taken from you. That is in no way selfish. You need time to come to terms with your loss, don’t push yourself to ‘be okay’ or let others dictate how long it takes you to accept this.


Post # 16
5285 posts
Bee Keeper

Sorry for your loss **hugs**

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