(Closed) He is leaving … it´s so hard!

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Aw, I hear ya. We’ve been married over a year now, but I’m about to go on a 5-day trip for school…we’ve never been apart for more than one night! I know I’m being soo silly about it, but I’m not happy about it! 🙁

Post # 4
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Aww, I’m sorry..it’ll be ok and will be over in no time!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Enjoy the time apart. Catch up on cleaning, reading, manicures and friends. When you come back together, you’ll appreciate him even more and be refreshed. I love a little time apart. Reminds you why you love them to being with.

Post # 6
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Aw, long trips apart are always hard! My husband regularly leaves for 14-18 days at a time during wildfire season & I hate it. BUT here are some things I do while he’s away:

Skype/call my family often
Make dates with friends for dinner, drinks, or other outings
Eat dinners that DH wouldn’t like
Watch shows DH thinks are lame
Organize/clean the house (this one is a personal love of mine, but you could put in any hobby you enjoy)
Spend a lot of time on the Bee!
Make a special dinner/set up a surprise for when he gets home

I think Mrs. Octopus wrote a post a while ago about Super Secret Single Behaviors for when your FI/DH leaves town. Enjoy a week of pampering yourself & get excited for when he comes home. Reunions are the BEST!

Post # 7
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Mine went away for about 5 days a few months after we moved in together and I have to say while I did miss him, I loved it, i found it quite romantic as he called me every evening before bedtime and it was really sweet x. He thinks he has to go at the end of the summer again.

 

A week isn’t long, think of all the things you can do when he’s not around like why not arrange a night in with your female friends? 

Post # 9
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel your pain! We’ve been married over a year but it’s still hard to be apart. My DH is leaving tonight on a 10 day roadtrip to Colorado. He’s SO excited to drive across the country with his cousin to see their friend and go down hill longboarding, but I’m sad that hes gonna be gone for so long. I tried to convince him to fly but they were dead set on driving so 10 days it is. Cry

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t take any day for granted with the FI since he’s in the army..1 year deployment was long enough..glad they brought it down to 9 months..but still ..even being away for a day seems like an eternity..

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@limegreenbride:  Girl, I was just thinking today about how “I honestly do not know how military wives/families flippin’ DO IT!”  DH and I just celebrated our first anniversary, are pretty happy, and honestly live and work in an extreme environment. (Non-military jobs in Afghanistan… Totally not the same, but also not a cakewalk) We do it together, and are totally fine.

DH, however, is also doing some really awesome consulting work for the city government of Mogadishu, Somalia. He just left today for his second field visit in a few months. It’s only a few days (like 10 or something) but it’s SO stressful. Like seriously, Somalia? It’s stabilized a lot over the past 6-10 months or so, but I worry about him pretty constantly. (Full disclosure: Last time he left there was a big attack here in Kabul and he was actually safe and sound there while I was safe but alone here. I also sincerely hope that doesn’t happen this time too!)

I know I could do this for a year, *if I had to,* but holy crap. Military families just amaze me. 

@mowi322:  This is a really great list! I was going to make something kind of like that, but don’t need to! ; )

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Mrs.LemonDrop:  Aww, I’m sure your husband will be fine! I can see why you would worry..I did every single day for an entire year. It’s tough but I do it because I love him and I wouldn’t change a thing. Luckily I’ve only had to go through one deployment..but I am sure there are more to come. I try not to worry that much because whether I worry or not it won’t change the outcome of whatever happens. Good luck to you and your husband!

Post # 13
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3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband is leaving next week.  He travels quite a bit for work.  I’m used to it now, I guess.  I let the dog sleep on the bed when he’s gone, let the dishes pile up, and watch lots of trashy tv.  I also have a chance to do work on the house.  When he went to China for 2 weeks a few years ago I re-did the bedroom. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Aw, I’m sorry he has to go on a business trip.  It’ll be nice to have some time apart though!  I know I would dislike FI going away, but would be somewhat excited to anticipate his arrival back home.  It always makes things so much better and exciting.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My SO and I have always had a couple of weeks a year apart… as we make a point of taking a few seperate vacations each year (Guy Trips / Girl Trips) in addition to the ones we take together.  For us it is a way to keep up with us being Individuals too, not just the other half of a couple.

Sure we miss each other like crazy (talk on the phone everyday)… BUT we also manage to keep busy when the other one is gone… like the other Bees said, you’d be surprised at the unique things you can do when your Guy isn’t around… Girlie stuff like manicures, etc – Lunch with Friends – Reading a New Book – Watching a chick flick etc… or just sitting round in your jammies / sweats if you feel like it

Truly think that the whole concept is a healthy one… having time to be oneself from time to time.

What I will tell you, is the REUNION is beyond sweet !!  I always make sure I look great (gone to hair dresser, have a pedicure, maybe a new item of clothing).  And we always bring each other back gifts from our travels.  In the past, I’ve gotten everything from a tacky souvenir, thru to a Tshirt or even a piece of jewellery.   

Lol, we are barely back together, and we inevitably are all over each other !!

Good to be home sex, rocks!!

Having time apart can certainly make you see how great your relationship is once you are back together.  I highly recommend it.

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I dont seem to mind when FI goes away for a bit. He is usually gone for a few weeks during hunting season. I dont mind. Its always GREAT when he come back because we never get to miss each other. Its a great reminder how much we love each other.

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