Post # 1
He is not gonna propose…is he?
I just moved in with my boyfriend for almost 3 months now. And we started talking about having a family…kids and wedding. We got down to the point where we want the wedding next year. And he was the one saying that he doesn’t wanna wait too long anymore ( his last relationship he was with her for several years…and got engaged and call it off).
one day(3 weeks ago)….on our way home…out of the blue…he turned his car into the wedding ring shop. I was so surprised. And it was not just looking around. We spent a good one hour there, he was so attentive, helping try on those rings, have his salesperson wrote down whatever I like..the style..the material, everything. Until I narrowed it down to 2 rings.
and every Sunday after that when we were home together…he always pulled up the engagement ring website and ask for my input…my comment..on the ring. And during the week sometimes I caught him looking at the engagement ring website…and when I walked pass the computer he just close the window screen.
it had been like that for 2-3 weeks. Until last week…he never pulled up the engagement ring websites anymore. And on Tuesday…when we were shopping …he got a called…he walked away…I overheard him said “oh hi…yes…yes….ok…bye”
when he walked back to me….I gave him the look (as if though I was asking him “who called you” kinda look). He smiled and said…this one you don’t need to know.
but I found out later that it was a call from the salesperson from the ring shop.
The thing is…it’s been a week now…and nothing happens…..and I have a feeling that it may not happen this year …the proposal.
We want to get married late 2013…….so I had the mindset that he may propose early 2013. But with the thing that happened(the story ..scenarios…I said above)…it got me thinking having anxiety that He may propose this year.
I had peace of mind…not dwelling on it …because I think it’s all gonna happen next year…..but now I’m having anxiety because of that call from the ring shop.
maybe that’s why he doesn’t want me to know who did call. He doesn’t want me to dwell on it?
Post # 3
It sounds like it’s definitely happening. Be patient, it’s only been a week 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
It definitely sounds like things are in the works, but remember that some rings have a long “lead time” on them– so even if he is actively working on it, it could still not be until next year. He definitely doesn’t want you to be dwelling on it.
There are so many stories on here of Bee’s ruining their surprise proposals with being impatient; you DON’T want to be one of them!
Just start getting manicures about once a month or so, and enjoy the anticipation! 🙂
Post # 5
So you know he’s bought you a ring. You know what’s on his mind. You know something good is coming.
He obviously wants it to be something more special/planned than just “oh, the ring came in, I guess you should wear it now”. Just try to relax and let the actual proposal be a surprise.
Post # 6
he prob designed your ring.. it takes a while to come in if thats the case… my fiance had my ring designed (he did it all on his own, i had no idea) he proposed in January and he started looking around Septemeber.. so i think it takes some time for the ring to be made. They might also have another diamond that he wants that they are waiting for it to come in.. just be patient 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
Have you been on the Waiting board? Its under NWR (Not Wedding Related). Its full of other Bees who are enjoying, or not, the waiting period.
You have no idea what that call was about. You’ll drive yourself bonkers if you dwell on it. Try you forget it and enjoy your man!
Post # 8
You should just ask him if he is going to propose this year or not. We can’t read his mind anymore than you can.
Seems like he already has the stuff figured out and ordered; hence the difference in routine.
Post # 9
It sounds to me like he has the ring and is now just waiting for the right time to give it to you! He quit looking at ring websites because he already bought it, so why keep looking right??
But don’t let yourself get too paranoid with the waiting…my FI had the ring almost 2 months before he found the perfect time (luckily I had no idea otherwise I would have been looking for a proposal around every corner).
Post # 10
it sounds like it’s in the works! be patient, it’s only been a week. he may need extra time for the ring, and may just want to keep you on the edge of your seat so you are surprised when it happens, and it’s a special moment! 🙂
Post # 11
@KhunClair: It sounds like he’s selected a ring and is waiting for the right time to propose. He could be waiting for this weekend, for Halloween, Thankgiving, or some other special time in the near future. Just take a deep breath and allow him to surprise you.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
He probably is waiting for your ring to come in now. It’s coming soon- be patient! It takes a while for these things to come in.
Post # 14
He is trying to surprise you.
Post # 15
Maybe that call from the ring shop…was to just follow up with him. Like they have never heard from him again since the first visit?……………… oh mannnnn…I’m so silly and lost.
Post # 16
@KhunClair: come on over to the waiting board honey!