- 8 years ago
I will try to make this short bees 🙂
I have been with my SO for 4 years. We’ve always talked like we would be together forever, but about a year and a half ago I asked him when he thought we might get engaged. He said at least two years because he wasn’t financially stable and just not ready at that time as he was 22. I wasn’t “obsessed” with getting engaged at the time and so I didn’t push it. I didn’t mention it that much until last spring. All of a sudden it was all I could think about and talk about. I knew it was annoying him, but I just couldn’t shut up. In one of our conversastions he said “we’re going to be together anyway, the wedding would be for you” He would be totally fine if we went to the court house and got married.
We got in a heated argument one thing led to another and he said he didn’t know if ever wanted to get married. He wished I would have let him do everything when he was ready and that I needed to learn patience. Well, that was about two months ago and I’ve not said a thing about rings/weddings since. He used to tell people I was “the wife” when we were at his family functions and things, but he hasn’t since “the fight”. He did refer to himself as “my husband” the other day when I was calling the auto shop about my car. He said “tell them your husband said it was this…” He’s staring to act like his old self, but I am going crazy not knowing what he’s thinking and I am not asking.
I found this site and realized that I should have listened to him when he gave me a timeline and been “patient”. I’ve been dying inside every since, but haven’t let him know it. I’ve tried really hard to be my upbeat happy self and I think it might be working. He’s made a couple of comments about houses. We looked at one back in the summer and he’s mentioned it off handed twice in the last week wondering if it sold and blah blah. I was very nonchalant and said i didn’t know. I kinda of get the feeling he’s been thinking about things, but I don’t know if he is or I am looking for signs. He asked me to give him a Christmas list because he didn’t know what to get me. I put three small items on it and and that was all. I know I am no where near getting a ring, but I think he wondered what I would put on it.I’ve analyzed the whole thing to death and it’s driving me crazy.
Sorry this is so long. Any opinions bees?