(Closed) He just dumped me…. for his Mom!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That is really sad but good thing you only wasted a year with him.

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@whydoesithurt:  When I broke up with my ex, I spent 2 weeks going to work and then spending all my free time crying my eyes out at home (and on the way to work and home from work and sometimes I’d shut the door and cry at work, too).  The first time I went out after those first 2 weeks, I met my Fiance.  The pain didn’t go away and I spent many nights crying in his arms, but I don’t cry anymore!  Just get out there and go for it. 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry, but you definitely dodged a bullet.  You need to find a man that puts you first.  

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

Don’t try to stop the tears! Let them happen. It’s natural and healthy to grieve the loss of something you put your heart into. Let that run its course in whatever time it takes. So purging FB of the couple stuff is a really good thing to do. Removing the things that surround you that are about the two of you as a couple is smart, and will make it much easier to move on.

And, honey, did you ever dodge a bullet here!! Go do things that are interesting to you, and open up space in your life for someone who puts you first. 

But for now, put yourself first. Value yourself in a way this boy didn’t allow himself to,  by living the fullest life you can. 

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

well, chalk one up for experience.  you now know what you don’t want in a relationship and what you actually deserve.  be thankful it was only a year. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Let those tears flow and get it ALL out!!! I know it’s painful and any break up sucks even if it’s for the best. I’m glad you didn’t waste to much time on him unlike me who spent 17 years with not only a mama’s boy but a mama and daddy’s boy.

To me, the men I’ve dated that didn’t end in a sucessful relationship were learning experiences. You NEED the bad ones in order to recognize the good one when he comes along and believe me…. in time he’ll come along!!!

You’re doing the right thing by “cleaning house” and getting rid of stuff. Have a break up ceremony with a fire burn of pictures, letters or anything else thats a reminder of him. After that put your feet up, have a glass of wine and remind yourself that you dodged the bullet!!

 

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Woah, you weren’t allowed to spend holidays together because mommy needed him all to herself? That is messed up! Imagine if you stayed in that relationship…years down the road and you find yourself having to say, “Sorry kids, I know it’s the 4th of July/Christmas/Easter and you want to see fireworks/open presents/find eggs, but it’s time for your dad to go spend time with grandma all by himself now? Uhh yeah I don’t think so! That is just flat out crazy! I mean, come on, that story tells you everything you need to know about this guy and the fact that he will never ever put you first.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

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@whydoesithurt:  It’s good for you to cry. I know your head says it’s irrational, but you didn’t love him with your head 🙂

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That is so awful! It’s okay for you to feel sad, even if you know that it is better that he is gone. You are still grieving your loss of what you thought you had and what might have been. I feel terrible that you are going through that. Big hugs!!

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Honestly, I love a man who has a great relationship with him mum.  But I don’t understand how there are mothers who just can’t seem to let their sons be happy and run their own lives. Seriously I think if my son was a sap like that I’d tell him to man the f* up and treat his lady right!

You sound like at least you know you dodged a bullet there!  Now you can find a man who will put you #1 in his life. Agree with PP who said can you imagine him getting mum’s input on having babies? Or what school to send them to? Or planning your wedding with MIL’s input and your ex constantly deferring to his mother’s wants?! Yuck!

It’s painful, but I agree just get back out there, rekindle those friendships with your girlfriends and go have some fun!  You never know what’s around the corner. 🙂

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You dodged such a huge bullet, I actually felt it whizz past my head as I was reading this.

Let momma’s boy suck a sniveling tit—you’ve got a real man to find!

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Deff dogded a huge bullet there!

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