(Closed) He just dumped me…. for his Mom!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Insomnia has made me mad. I thought this story would be a really bad Oedipus complex story like “he dumped and eloped with his mom in vegas”. either way *hugs* and I have nothing to add that another bee hasn’t said already. Gosh they’re such good advice givers.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow there’s some serious dysfunction going on there. God help whoever he ends up with. I’m sure he’s a great guy, but he’s a great guy with some serious issues. You’ve been given a reprieve from mother in law hell.

Post # 34
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Busy bee

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@AlwaysSunny:  i totally agree about being on your team ^-^

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

So sorry you’re hurting right now.  You really did dodge a bullet, and while you may not take comfort in that right now.  You will.  I doubt this man has the ability to function in the real world as an adult.  You don’t want to marry someone like that.. 😉

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m so sorry you’re hurting, but you deserve a man who treats you better than this. You’re right – you did dodge a bullet.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Bullet was definitely dodged!  Cry it out, then pick yourself up and get back out there and find a man who’s not still tugging at mommy’s apron strings! *hugs*

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That is not a man. That is a 5-year-old boy parading around in a man suit.

I once dated a momma’s boy–though luckily, it wasn’t so bad that he still lived at home. But when we went to meet his parents by staying with them over the weekend, he transformed in front of my eyes from someone I knew was needy and a little immature into a full-fledged toddler accepting the cooing and coddling of his mother. He was putty in her hands. I cared about him, but he was in no shape to be in an adult relationship, and neither was this boy.

Whenever I’m going through a break-up, what always helps best is time with friends, who can totally help pull you out of your funk. Invite them over to pour some wine and help get rid of all that stuff so it doesn’t seem so harsh. And then go out to eat or out dancing or something. Don’t get too drunk to avoid the onslaught of drunk emotions, though.

Oh, and for some reason, a haircut is always a cathartic break-up experience for me…like I’m becoming someone else instead of who I was with that person. It always makes me feel better.

Post # 39
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

At first I thought we dated the same guy but then I realized that mine was 30!!  It’s for the best, girl – have a blast right now and concentrate on YOU and you’ll find the perfect guy in time 🙂

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Trust me, from someone who has been there – you dodged a bullet! It sucks and hurts now, but trust me, a few years from now, when you meet the right guy, you’ll look back and laugh. For now, sex and the city dvds, pints of ice cream, and a few good nights out with the girls. 

Post # 41
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Helper bee

I think its probably for the better, sounds like he has some mommy issues.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

hugs to you. Breaking up is always difficult. Knowing you dodged a bullet doesn’t exactly take the pain away, but I promise time will. Just give yourself time to process and feel what you feel.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Good thing his Momma told him to break up with you, because if she hadn’t, you could end up like me, with an 8 year old who is more mature than her “father” that never sees her, even though when I take her to visit (on his weekends/holidays) it’s always at grandmother’s house because THAT’S WHERE HE STILL LIVES, and he’s now well over 30. I remember when I was pregnant, Momma used to call the house and leave VOICEMAILS on the answering machine at 6 am “Son, wake up..it’s time to wake up son..you gotta go to work, son…son…son…son…”Bahahaha…but seriously. WTF

OMG, I bounced when darling daughter was 3 weeks old. And I only waited so long because I had a c section and some infection stuff happening…

Do your thang!

 

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You dodged a serious bullet! How super gross. I am so turned off by mothers who have emotional incesty relationships with their sons. Seriously, moms, get your own lives and relationships. Stop expecting your son to meet your emotional needs, because that is so icky and selfish. Your son is not your lover. He’s your son. GET BOUNDARIES. Ew.

Anyway, I know this hurts, but I think it’s clearly for the best. You deserve to be someone’s #1 priority! And you deserve a real man. I hope you have lots of family and friends to turn to for support right now. I’m sure it hurts a ton now, but someday you’ll be laughing about this guy you dated with the creepy relationship with his mother. I promise. 🙂

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yikes, Mamas boys…ugh. It really is a great thing you got out early though. I’m sorry, I can’t imagine how annoying/frustrating that must be. You deserve sometime to put you first.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You so dodged a bullet and be glad you did. Now if he ever calls you up for a booty call, ask him why his mother isnt available. I know its disgusting but she cant give him everything….ewwww

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