- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Your story made me think of this:
Your story made me think of this:
@Nona99 – Good point! I think a lot of women assume that these types of men might be more “normal” once their moms pass away (or when they move away from her, etc), but I think you’re right – they’ve got serious issues that won’t just disappear when circumstances change.
@Newlywed2011 – Thanks for your kind words. Sometimes I need a reminder to trust that things will work out how they’re meant to…
@EffieTrinket – LOL! Yikes! How terrible was it that my first thought was to photoshop my ex’s photo onto that magazine pic? I never would, of course, but how well the image fits made me smile….
Speaking from personal experience, I think you dodged a bullet for sure.
My Fiance is an only child, and when his mother started expressing her disapproval of our relationship (after it got serious), Fiance put his foot down and drew a boundary line with his mom. Since then it’s been two years of pretty extreme behavior from her, including her moving halfway across the country. It’s been a very painful and challenging two years (especially for FI), but our relationship is solid. We would not be together now had he allowed his mom to control his life like she wanted to. I never asked him to put his foot down, or choose between us, he just did what he believes was right and I’ve supported him the whole way. It’s still hard, but we are totally committed to each other and our relationship. We just wish she wasn’t doing the things she does, because it’s really hard on Fiance.
Hang in there. I know it’s tough, but it’s probably for the best. Hugs.
It’s going to suck for a little while, but I think most of us can agree that we are in a better place because of past relationships coming to an end. I promise you that you will find someone who is awesome and who loves you and who makes you wonder what you ever saw in this guy.
My ex for high school (yeah, we are going back in time!) always went from girl to girl for 4 years and I hated it. When I went off to college I met my now hubby and I moved away from the town I grew up in when I married.
When he found out that I had left town and gotten married to another man he was FURIOUS! I didn’t care honesly, I had the man I really wanted by my side and I had my reasons for dumping this ex.
I look back on those years and the drama that went with it and I am so GLAD that I let him go and found someone better for ME.
Things work out for a reason! Good luck with finding someone new! HUGS!
Ohhh you got that right about dodging a bullet. My Fiance used to be clingy with his Mom and I weened him off of her. He was never as bad as you bf is though. You’ll be fine, I know its rough, but take this as a blessing is disguise. Is this really something you would want to deal with for the rest of your life???
Ladies, I just can’t thank you enough for all of your support! I know the hurt isn’t just going to disappear overnight, but I’m feeling cautiously optimistic that I’m over the worst of it. In fact, I’m happy to report that today I’m actively communicating with some online dating prospects! I’m definitely not going to rush things or hold out unrealistic expectations, but I’m proud of myself for taking steps to get back out there again.
As much as I’ll miss this community, I think it’ll probably be healthy for me to take a break from weddingbee (until I’m in a commited relationship that is approaching the appropriate stage). Good luck to you all, and I hope to find my way to a better relationship and back to the hive someday! 🙂
I feel sorry for him, and for his mom. Sounds like they’re not very well adjusted. This is adult child abuse. If he lets her, she’ll ruin his life withouth trying.
Hugs to you – I’m really sorry you’re going through this, but you’re instint is right with this, and there’s a way better adjusted adult man out there for you!
edit – just saw this is 3 years old…
What a loser he is and what an unbelievably selfish and overly needy woman his mother is. I know others have said this but I have to tell you also also that you dodged a massive bullet. My ex was a mummy’s boy and never put me first and that relationship lasted for 6 1/2 years. In hindsight I should have ended it way before that but as people say, hindsight is a great thing. It took 5 1/2 years to get him to move out with me and when he did he cried over leaving.
This thread is 3 years old!!
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