(Closed) He keeps changing the ring budget…now there is no budget.

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
4913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@musician32992:  $55k/year = 3 months rule = $13,750.  The rule is 3 months BEFORE taxes, not after.  Let him in on that little known tidbit of information. 

I hate when guys spend a shit ton of money on themselves and then shit on things like the engagement ring or wedding band.  I broke up with my ex because he bought himself expensive stuff, but didn’t plan not even a dinner or buy a bouquet of flowers for our anniversary.  It’s selfish and cheap and thoughtless.  He needs to step up or step out. 

Post # 18
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@musician32992:  So from what I understand you have a dream ring that is a bit expensive and have been laying on the wedding talk in your LDR and your SO freaked out and doesn’t want to get you a ring anymore….

Hmmm…I don’t like it…

Post # 20
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow, sounds like he doesnt want to get married honestly. I’d be ticked!! Buuut on the other hand maybe he already bought you one and is trying to throw you off so its a surprise. ??

Post # 24
487 posts
Helper bee

The issue here isnt the budget….the issue here is, does he REALLY want to get married?? I think you need to get to the root of this pronto!!! If a guy wants to marry you (or anyone!!), hes going to save money to get you a ring, since its a symbol of your love. Hes not going to tell you to get it yourself. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but if my SO said that to me, Id have some serious thinking to do

Post # 26
487 posts
Helper bee

@musician32992:  Can I just say before it goes any further….you NEED to talk to him. You cant be scared to talk to the person you want to marry!!! And you need to make sure that you are on different paths before you invest in a ring…God forbid he really isnt ready and you spent money on a ring!

Post # 27
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband is cheap.  So cheap.  And he’s the guy who felt like he had to buy an M3 before we got engaged because I’d never let him get one.  (Truth: I drive it more than him and would have bought him a newer one!) 

Anyway – he INSISTED on saving for and buying my ring(s).  Because that’s what you do.  My rings together are about 2 months of his salary before tax, 3 months after tax.  I would have contributed to them, I offered.  But I’m so glad he wouldn’t let me, because he bought them for me. 

Buying your own engagement ring is ok – if you decide together that’s what you need to do.  But because he just won’t?  No.  What’s his deal?

Post # 30
297 posts
Helper bee

@musician32992:  I’m an unemployed student and still manage to buy him $60 dress shirts, an $80 briefcase…

Wait, what?

Post # 31
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This isn’t a budget problem. This is a douchebag problem.

I mean yeah, maybe your wedding talking is annoying him, but that’s ridiculous.


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