Post # 1
He texted me earlier saying it’s over and can’t get past what happened. He basically said he doesn’t believe that’s all that happened and even if more didn’t happen, the trust is gone. He said he’s gonna have all my stuff packed by tomorrow.
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Oh bee I’m so sorry. Give him some time to cool off. He might come around. This is all very fresh.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry. I know this must be very hard. I agree with PPs—give this time and do what you can (without being invasive or annoying) to show him you love and respect him. That means showing you respect his decisions too. So sorry.
Post # 5
I see his point. I read over your posts and you should have been honest with him about meeting another guy for drinks etc. You hid everything and then it blew up in your face. We only have your side of the story, maybe the other guy really did feel that you led him on, especially since your conversations turned pretty close to sexual. Take this as a learning experience. Let your ex have the space he needs. He might come back but he might not. Good luck
Post # 6
Well… You sexted another guy. I’d be out too, just sayin.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA
I can’t honestly say I feel sorry, as cheating is not acceptable in my book.
However, you may use this situation as a learning opportunity for you to become a better person and never hurt a future partner this way.
Post # 8
This is all very fresh for you bee. Just let him go for now and let things cool off. It’s the only strategy you have.
Post # 9
I don’t know why you’d expect any other reaction from him honestly. I’m not trying to be mean or rude… But cheating doesnt fly in my book… And most others for that matter.
Post # 10
It doesn’t matter what the other guy said. You sexted him too. I don’t blame your fiancee at all. Hopefully this is a lesson learned for you.
Post # 11
I agree with PPs. This is all just happening and he is going through the range of emotions. Let him know you love him and want to work through this (if that is what you are wanting.) He will process and likely also want to work through it, he just needs to get pass the reactive point.
Post # 12
I’m very sorry to hear that, bee. I hope he comes around, but I also hope you understand why he’s reacted this way:(
Post # 13
Public Service Announcement:
a lot of bees have a ton of brutal honesty to give OP. Please be mindful about whether you’re more interested in the brutality aspect than the actual honesty. She’s just had her entire world shattered over a series of poor choices in a matter of hours. Be honest, but you can also be gentle and supportive.
Post # 14
I am so sorry to hear this.
My feelings on the situation aside, give this some time to settle down so that everyone can work through their feelings a bit.
Post # 15
This is such a gray area. While I’m aware that honesty is best, I can’t help wondering what purpose it served here. OP started sliding into a danger zone and she corrected herself.
OP, if it ends, please don’t be hard on yourself. You’re a good person. I really dont want to see any more posts castigating you because it makes me sick.