- 10 years ago
I have been thinking for a long time whether to write on here on not. I am not usually one to write personal problems on the internet but here goes. I have been dating my SO for two years, he was madly deeply crazy in love with me and so was I. He ticked very box and we both knew from the start we would be together forever, never have I met someone I was so compatible with and never had I met a guy so crazy about me.
Now when we met we both came out of LTR and I had a pretty horrible breakup which shattered my trust in guys, but he came along completely wiped my ex out of my head. However the trust issue still stayed with me and I always braced myself and never completely trusted him 100%. While I told him this he absolutaly made sure he earned my trust, called me day and night, took me out every weekend, told me he loved everyday, texted me 24/7 he did things other guys usually stop doing after a while. He continued being my dream man for almost 1.5 years in.
My life completely changed with him and we both became so attached and inseperable all my friends could see I honestly felt like the luckiest girl in the world. He worked his butt of for me to finally agree to a relationship with him (even though he was perfect to me), I kept telling him I dont want another guy wasting my time and the next guy will have to be the one for me. He basically begged to be with me for 5 months and we finally got together and he kept telling me how happy he was.
Within a few months he proposed (after we had a fallout), HE brought up marriage HE wanted to settle down HE wanted all of this. So we agreed and last summer we started planning our wedding.
We agreed to save up for a house, all he kept talking about was how he couldnt wait to get married to me, have kids with me, share a life etc. We started looking for houses in our town, he sent me links to different houses, discussed when we would get married (Feb 2012), honeymoon, how to decorate the house and out of nowhere last August disappeared.
Bear in mind, he called me as per usual everynight except the night before he disapearred. I didnt think it was unusual so I called him that morning and we spoke (again about the wedding, mortgate and honeymoon). Later that evening I called him and he wouldnt answer.
I called him again for 3 days in a row and he would hang up on purpose (called from a different number as well) as he heard my voice. Enough was enough so I sent him a very long email detailing how hurt I was, how disgusted I was with him, and explained that I took this as him not wanting to marry me as I have done nothing wrong to him. I told him to never speak to me again.
He never did. Not one day since then has he contacted me, check up on me, apologise or explain what the hell happened. All I had was 1 text since then saying he misses me. That is it. To this day I have no idea what happened.
Thank you all for reading this, I would appreciate your input and any reason (other than cold feet – because believe me he badly wanted to settle down) as to why he disappeared. How can someone who was in love with you, crazy about you, spoke to you since the day you met suddenly disappear and never hear your voice again. Please also note, he also was the one to call first, he loved calling me at least 7 times a day and spoke for an hour before bed. Suddenly he treats me like shit and drops me without so much as a word. Only God knows and helped how I got through the first few months.