(Closed) He left One month before the Wedding

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 35
Member
963 posts
Busy bee

@Alex8120:  You are better off without him, but that doesn’t make it hurt less now.  Take time to heal emotionally.  You deseve better.

Post # 37
Member
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wait, he took all of your stuff?

Post # 39
Hostess
8573 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Move on – he isn’t worthy of your thoughts.

Post # 40
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11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Alex8120:  Girl, you need to get your shit back. Tell him straight up, “I want my property returned to me. Let’s discuss the most efficient way to do that, and I will need it by x date.” If he doesn’t return your stuff by whatever date, get the police involved.

Post # 41
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292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@Alex8120:  Honestly, it sounds like some weird, overly-complicated, years-long scam. Except (no offense) I doubt you have enough money/stuff to justify such an investment.

Either way, I know it’s really hard, but you need to move on. Make a really positive, big change in your life, and that’ll make it easier. Forget that loser, block him from all methods of communication, and get on with being awesome, because you are.

Post # 42
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You poor thing. Years from now, you will probably look back on this and consider it a blessing. You dodged a bullet. Big Time. 

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I may be reading between the lines here, but it sounds like the thing you really want here is closure, because there never was a clean break or explanation of what went wrong.  Everything seemed fine in your relationship, so why would he leave such a wonderful thing?  Unfortunately sometimes we don’t get closure, because some people are cowardly douchebuckets.  This isn’t on you, this guy’s got issues, and you’re better off without him.

Post # 44
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291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh wow. I think 

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@abirdword is right. Closure is what we’re looking for here. I mean, you were ready to share the rest of your life with this person and all of a sudden, he disappears. I guess the best thing to do right now is, like everyone said, move on. It’s hard especially since there are so many “whys” but if he can’t give you closure, you just have to find it for yourself. 

 

Post # 45
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@Alex8120:  Honestly, from what you’ve said it is completely over – you haven’t heard from him AT ALL for 6 months. He has not even had the decency to give you an explanation. You are well rid.

 

However, under the circumstances and for your own closure I would send him a civil, distant email, making it clear that you know he has moved on and so have you, but please can he have the decency and common courtesy to return your stuff and once he has done that you will return his. This will give you some closure. If he replies, great you will get your stuff back – if he tries to start up anything again, just ignore it/cut him dead, he will just string you along again. If he doesn’t reply, then sorry, he is worse than the poop on your shoe and you must be strong and get on with your life. Good luck.

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