Post # 91
lifeisbeeutiful : Why do I have to be psychic to see that when the OPs post is clear indication of him being a liar and a jerk? Is he even remotely responsible? How? Tell me how you envision this wonderful man?
Yes, he will forever be tied to OP because he will be 50% of the child. He will be a constant reminder to OP.
Post # 92
queenie8119 : you wrote out clear examples of how he would treat her, situations with finances and fighting for attention with the ex, just really descriptive future situations so I thought you were psychic because no person without supernatural powers and insight into the future can see events in the future with such great detail. We can comment on his behavior in the past and present but should refrain from letting our imaginations run wild.
Post # 93
I’m getting a scary vibe from this guy, too. He takes zero responsibility for his own behavior, eg the pill business.
The suggestion that you seek legal advice is sound. An attorney can direct him to stop all cobtact with you and communicate with you only through your legal representative.
Post # 94
lifeisbeeutiful : She isn’t telling she is advising.
Post # 95
lifeisbeeutiful : You did bring up religion actually. Just stop ragging on people who are giving that advice. It’s an option. Just as adoption is an option. Just as Keeping the kid is a option.
Stop turning this this into your personal war/problem on abortion. It’s a option and you may not like it. It’s your opinion but don’t attack and say it’s not advice. It is. You just don’t like it.
Im agreeing with the other posters.
Post # 97
pumpkinwaffle : lol I didn’t say that I was against abortion, only that it’s important to educate yourself about the benefits and risks,.as it’s not a risk free easy option as some say it is.
I’ll give a very close example, and YES I KNOW IT DOESNT HAPPEN TO EVERYONE, *MOST* ABORTIONS ARE SUCCESFUL WITH NO LONG TERM NEGATIVE EFFECTS, but this is NOT The case for everyone. This isn’t about “dear mongering”, for goodness sake, it’s to let people like the. OP and everyone else see that there are risks and benefits to abortions. My very good friend was pregnant at 18, and because it wasn’t a good time for her with school, unmarried, the guy wasn’t a winner, her mom took her to an abortion clinic and got an abortion. One day later, she felt good, problem solved. She developed a severe infection, then a few years later was diagnosed with PID, all while she wasn’t sexually active. The ob said that the infection, PID and scarring were all due to tissue and bacteria left over from the abortion, years later. She is now 39, infertile, had a hysterectomy last summer because of the PID and irregular bleeding and pain for the last 20 years. She regrets the abortion and blames it for her infertility since.
Now,.I know there are millions of great success stories but not everyone is that lucky.
i did not say anything about my religion or personal beliefs, only that it’s not for everyone BC of personal thoughts, someones religious beliefs, etc etc. Whats good for you perhaps isn’t good for everyone. That’s all. You don’t have to be so defensive, these are all opinions. Chill out. I’m not jumping on the abortion bandwagon even before OP mentioned *anything* about having one. Sure, it’s an option and people can “suggest” it as an option, but I don’t think,again, that’s it’s for everyone, and people need to know that.
Post # 98
lifeisbeeutiful : you and your anti-abortion agenda need to chill out. You’ve said your piece, now stop repeating it ad naseum. You’ve gone way beyond the point of helping the OP, which I assume (?) was your original intent.
Sorry it seems to bother you so much, but abortion is 100% legal and it’s a decision that lies entirely with the woman carrying the fetus. And it’s exactly because of situations like this where there’s no ideal solution, but a woman has the right to decide for herself what her future is going to look like.
Post # 99
KittyYogi : again, i didnt say I was against abortion. Only that there are risks and benefits, like any other medical procedure. I am not speaking about it through an emotional lens either. Understand?
Post # 100
Guys, please keep this on topic for the OP, who really needs your support right now.
The threadjacking about abortion needs to stop. I know this is a heated subject with a lot of passionate feelings, but they’ve aired on all sides now and it’s time to get back to the OP’s post.
Also, a little respectful debate is healthy and encouraged, but please refrain from arguing enough to derail from the subject or clutter the thread with sidetracks. Use your best judgement here.
Post # 101
gialia98 : My unplanned pregnancy (I mentioned it on page 2 or 3) happened when I was on birth control too. I even took mine like clockwork—had an alarm on my phone and everything—but it obviously didn’t work for me as well as it should have. I definitely empathize.