- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
So, I worked last friday evening, usually I have off…I come home around 11 :30 and Fiance is sitting on the couch, his phone blowing up….I ask whats up like i always do, he does it to me too, usually nothing to hide…
Its his ex wife, apparently they have been chatting thru text messages. I ask for the phone, again no biggie, she usually texts long ones that are too hard to try to explain in words…easier to read. We do this regularly. He is going on and on about dateline that he watched and really upset him, supposedly the reason for all their texts…I am scrolling up and he is literally sweating bullets, obviously very freaked out thatI have his phone…nothing major in the texts the only thing that slightly annoyed me is him telling her how good he thinks he looks for his age…it was flirty, but in and of itself no big deal. He was literally having a panic attack because I have his phone,
“What are you doing? What are you reading? Give me that, I am trying to talk to you!”
So I hand the phone back, and he is still freaking out, starts saying honey you know I love you you know how lucky I am to have you , blah blah blah….
I let it go. He was acting suspicious, yes, but I told myself this man is going to be your husband you have to trust him, all that. So then the convo progresses, he had sent me a pic of our son, and I had this feeling he had sent it to her, instead of wondering and being weird I figured I would ask him. He looked me in the eye and said no, I didn’t send it to anyone.
Comepletely left it alone, actually had a pretty good eveing with him after that all in all. Next day, we are grocery shopping and I had remembered something his ex had said in the text and asked him about what it meant…he goes, Oh it was about that pic of Johnny. I said, wait, you told me you didn’t send it to anyone else, he goes, OH I forgot. I sent it to Mandy too.
I got mad. I asked why he had lied, he said he forgot, I told him please don’t insult my intelligence, have a little more respect for me than that. So he said he lied because he knew I would be upset. Not an excuse in my opinion, I am not a jealous person, as i mentioned before its not like I get mad at him for talking to people…..but he lied. And now he is treating me like this is my fault, like he is upset with me about it, barely speaking to me….And I am wondering what else was in the phone that he didn’t want me to see? You asked me Friday morning Iwould have said I trust him completely, now….not so much.
By The Way he has a history of cheating, not with me, but when he was married before…..