(Closed) He lied to me!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

@Misstiff:  Why, I have no idea. That would be VERY annoying, and I definitely think you have grounds to bring it back up again. Communication is key! You definitely sound a wee bit heated, so maybe try to cool down over the next few days and ask him again what she looks like, and if he sticks to his story inform him that you Googled her. Or maybe, what I would do, and try to find her on FB and be like “Is this the Gillian you’re friends with?? FB keeps suggesting her to be my friend. She looks nothing like I remember you saying.” and use this as an opportunity to bring it back up.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

So, you are picking up on the vibe that he has a crush on her?

If you think this is true.. i guess you are the only one who can determine what you should do about it.

He shouldn’t have lied, but he probably down played how she looked to save you jealousy.

If he talks about her that often, then she is on his mind that often. It could either be that he has a crush on her.. or just that they are involved a lot at work. Could be either way. Only you know your fiance that well to determine that.

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

and only he knows why he is lying about it.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Do you think she is attractive?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

..you’re sure its her? A lot of people come up when you google my name and its an uncommon one.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

FutureMrsDrPeter said it well, “If he talks about her that often, then she is on his mind that often.” I dunno, I know a lot of seemingly honest men who have done bad things. I’m not trying to scare you or anything, but it will escalate out of control if you bring it up when you’re peeved, you know?? Keep it cool and brush it off best you can just even for one day. Everything is better after a night of sleep… You know??

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Misstiff:  Ask him if he talks about you this much to her. Or, ask him to invite her out to drinks with the two of you so she knows you exist. If she doesn’t, I’d be irked.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Okay I’m confused….what did he lie about?

I would find it weird if my Fiance didn’t talk about his coworkers……he has some attractive women that work with him and he’s gone out with them after work (in a group)….but I was never jealous or worried about it…..

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

How different was his version form the one you found on the internet? Also keep in mind that woman and men view and judge people differently. Also, he may also be hiding his true opinion of how he thinks she look in an effort to not offend or worry you.

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

One more thing..

Have you ever felt this way before, since you have been with him for 4 1/2 years? How long has he worked there? Have you ever been to his work? Has he ever asked you to? Has she been there long?

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

My last piece of advice, after reading another post. I am intimidated by girls I don’t know, but once I get to know them I feel better. Maybe getting to know her at a company function would be a good idea.

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