(Closed) He lied to me and has now moved on. I'm devastated.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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1781 posts
Buzzing bee

Listen to me: UNFRIEND him on facebook right now!! BLOCK him so his profile disappears and you can’t stalk him anymore! and especially NO texting or phone calls to him!! And vow to yourself never to speak about him outloud again to anyone!

Post # 17
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The best revenge is living well.  Get out there, live well, and get your revenge that way. 

Post # 18
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310 posts
Helper bee

twu123:  so, a year ago, you also posted that you were in your 20s and your fiance had proposed, then taken the ring back?  Which is it?

Fiance called off wedding, and he returned the ring, and now wants me back.

I don’t buy that it was your daughter posting…both posts have that same long, rambling tragic tone with tons of details and very little punctuation.

You seem to have too much time on your hands…maybe stick to one tale of tragedy.

Post # 21
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310 posts
Helper bee

twu123:  Good luck to you…you sound like you really, really need help.  Here’s hoping you’re able to find it.

Post # 22
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4505 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just because he’s on a trip with this woman doesn’t mean he’s going to commit to her any more than he committed to you. He sounds like he just wants to have fun and not be serious. I’ll bet that he’ll break this woman’s heart, too, if it even gets that far. 

Hugs to you.

Post # 23
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2976 posts
Sugar bee

Just leave him and don’t look back.  I’ve seen your previous posts and even if you hadn’t discovered the infidelity I would by now be advising you to leave him because he wants you around but only on his terms.  

I am curious about something.  If his back injury is as bad as you have said in previous posts (risking potential future damage to his spinal cord) and there has been serious swelling, how come he has been able to move around and go to bed with someone.  I would have thought he would need to be immobilised and in a back brace.  Maybe he’s lying about this too.

Just leave.  

 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

And do people with serious spinal injuries and swelling and who are doctors (and should know better) go on trips?  Not unless they are bonkers….or lying.

Post # 27
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497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

twu123:  Okay so you have been hurt multiple times. You have gone out with guys that don’t seem like they are a good fit for you. But you have to realize that not all men are like that. If you go into the dating world, with this type of mentality you are never going to find anyone.

Also, this doctor you are talking about, just wasn’t the guy for you. Plain and simple. It might of felt like he was the one but he obviously wasn’t. You should be happy that you are no longer wasting your time waiting for his ass to give you what you wanted (marriage).

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

twu123:  I forgot to add…Do you really think your exhusband has changed? Actions speak louder than words.

Post # 29
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2976 posts
Sugar bee

I’ve looked back through your posts.  Individual difficulties might have been dealt with but collectively they are just one huge red flag.

I don’t think he loves you but he still wants you around so that you come when you are called or when he needs you.  Like a puppy dog or a mobile doormat.

Dont be treated this way. Take screenshots of the facebook messages, send them to him so that he knows that you know, and then cut all communication.

Incidentally his business manager is not in a position to be your friend.  Nor can she give you good personal advice without compromising her professional position.  Stop confiding in her.

Post # 30
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123 posts
Blushing bee

I did not look at the original thread, but I feel until you are married he can cheat on you. He may come back? he may marry the other woman? the business manager is not your friend. what is your occupation? Physicians tend to like to be around other wealthy people. I have a sibling who is a physician and she married a man who makes six figures and has tons of patents. you have a ready made family with three kids does this other woman have children? is she younger than you? he probably wants someone who can have his child.

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