- 4 years ago
I’m 26 and he’s 25. We’ve been together for close to 3 years. This entire past year all he can talk about is how bad he wants to be my husband and spend our lives together. And I really want to because he’s amazing in almost every single way. And I do love him.
My mom was diagnosed with cancer about two years ago. He out of nowhere told my mom that he loved me and wanted to marry me. My mom said that she wanted to be there for it. And he promised both her and I that she would be.
He said I can pick whenever I wanted. I did, because my mom had no idea what her health would be like, sooner the better. I picked a date 6 months out. And he didn’t help plan or anything….even when I asked for it…..sooooo, it didn’t happen.
My mom passed away a few months after the chosen date.
7 months pass and I’m still with him. He took me to look at rings…He promised we would get married at the end of November, which is in 7 months.. he talked about planning for it a little bit and how we have to get moving. Finally I felt like things were moving along. I asked him if we can move the day a week earlier because the place we want to have it at wasn’t available.
His reply was “well, maybe we should just do October instead. It’ll be warmer”. I was excited until he clarified that he meant next year… So a whole year and a half away now?
He says it’s because of the money…My family and I will pay for everything, and if it happens we will elope… So it’s nothing crazy. Money should be an issue..he’s even using my great grandmothers ring instead now…
My mom told me before she passed that if he was lying to make me feel better I should leave because he will just tell me stuff to make me feel better my whole life. And everyone else in the world seems to agree. But, everyone is also kind of sided because they know it kind of bothers me.
So… My question is… Do I wait around a little longer? Or should I give him the boot? I don’t want to pressure him, but wtf. Lol
I can’t imagine being with anyone else, but I eventually want kids, and I don’t want to waste my time on someone who doesn’t feel the same way 🙁