- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Aww, OP, I can kind of relate. I’ve gained at least a dress size since I met my husband and he LOVES it. I tried to go on a diet when I first noticed my clothes getting a little snug and he told me straight up that I hadn’t gained any weight as far as he could tell and I look beautiful and stop worrying. He means well but he’s a hard-core enabler. And being that he does 90% of the cooking, it felt like a huge task to get him to buy into my weight loss. Like you, I’ve lost a large amount of weight in the past so it can feel like a real setback to be even a couple of pounds outside your ideal zone. When he sees pics of me from when I was significantly larger (50 pounds!) his reaction is always the same “so you really think you’ve lost weight since then? I don’t see it, but if you say so…” Sir, a whole 2nd grader is missing from my frame and you don’t see it? The benefit there, though, is that I assume when I do lose weight and go back to the size I was when we met (or perhaps a bit below) he also won’t notice?
I hope you feel better soon. I’m sorry to hear that you’re short of breath and whatnot.
P.S. (directed at no one in particular) I find it very interesting that in a thread yesterday where a Bee questioned whether she should lose weight or not almost everybody commented that there’s no such thing as a healthy fat person and that her being overweight was a surefire sign that she was unhealthy in general…but people are commenting that the OP’s boyfriend being thin does not necessary mean he’s healthy. Which is it?
I personally have known many thin people (men and women) who ate nothing but utter garbage. They were probably intrinsically unhealthy but just happened to have high metabolisms.
I too have known people across the spectrum, even with good habits and whatnot. I know a thin woman who eats rabbit food, but has two different types of cancer and cholesterol through the roof. I also know a clinically obese woman who just ran a marathon (even though people take one look at her and assume she must be unhealthy and out of shape). If the roles were reversed, and it was the fat lady with all the health problems, it seems to me that most people would chalk it up to her weight. But I digress. I don’t mean to thread-jack.
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