- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
I recently (last March) moved to and this summer got married in the UK. A couple months ago I recieved permission to work here, and have been applying for jobs all over the place, but haven’t found anything yet.
Meanwhile, my husband is of course paying all of our expenses. I did have some savings before I came over, but because I was back and forth between locations work was quite limited, and I unfortunately ran out at the end of the summer. I very much dislike that he is the money-maker, and I the housewife – I don’t mind doing the cleaning and tidying, its more so that just keeping the flat clean doesn’t make me feel entitled to spend any money he earns towards myself or…. gifts.
This post did come to mind because of Christmas…. since I’ve known him I’ve always hand made him gifts – fabric wall hangings, or silly crocheted stuffed animals, but I no longer have the materials to make these things for him, and…. how many silly crocheted animals need to inhabit our home? And the idea of asking for money to buy matierls to make him (or others) gifts, sits funny for me.
I suppose there is the general discomfort that 1)We are just getting by on one income, though I have been trying to change that. 2)Not feeling like an equal because I am not working.
And to note – he never makes me feel bad when I do ask for a bit of money to have a coffee date during the week, or if I need a new pair of headphones or something, but I also find myself jealous that this place is more of his home – he is more established, has a band, “we” are more likely to spend money on his hobbies than mine, yet I’m doing all I can….
It seems I am asking two questions.
1) What are some creative home-made, cheap, gift ideas for a husband?
2) How do you adapt (even if temporary) to a one-income household?
Thanks for any input!