He needs a private 'office space' for himself…

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
9818 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am on your/Jane’s side.  However, can’t they just split the room if it comes down to it? I have friends that have done that (desk with computer for the guy to game on and desk/craft area for the girl).  I know he gets the garage but I wouldn’t want to use the garage my own personal spare room since it most likely has no heat or a/c or air flow (although I know he already agreed to this hence why I am on Jane’s side of the whole thing- he should definitely not get 2 spaces for himself)

Post # 47
1485 posts
Bumble bee

We totally need an update on this later!

Post # 48
119 posts
Blushing bee

Peachytalk :  I totally agree…please update on the outcome

Post # 49
4579 posts
Honey bee

Nope.  On title I was willing to side with him because I believe everyone deserves to have their own sanctuary of private space, but that’s just dumb.  He already has his space.  Hers is a legitimate business need (albeit hobby business).  When he develops a legitimate business need he can have the office or turn his garage space into his office.  He doesn’t get both and he certainly doesn’t get both while being a retail cashier.  Not to dog on retail cashiers – I did it for along time myself and occasionally pick it up now and again for extra cash as part-time work, but you don’t take your work home with you working that kind of job (whereas I’m at home working on a presentation I have to give later in the week).  Either get a job in a professional industry that requires work from home or get yourself in school if you want an office. 

Post # 50
726 posts
Busy bee

Normally I’m not against the idea of my man having his own office (he likes to compose music in his free time), but UMMM tell Scott to use his garage for his office! Like dafuq?

Post # 51
2019 posts
Buzzing bee

What is he going to do in the office that is different than what he’ll do in the mancave? He doesn’t have any legit work to do in the office, so I’m imagining he will just sit there, play on his phone, maybe watch TV? Sounds like a mancave. 

What the hell does he need 2 for? 

I wouldn’t date scott because he sounds like an ass. That said, if they do move in together, I’d give him the office and mancave. Then I’d take the master bedroom for my woman cave, and the living room for my office. He can sit in the garage all day, and that would be just fine by me. 

Post # 52
2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

He should not have two spaces. At all. And yes, she should be rethinking moving in with him. 

He can make an “office” in the mancave. He doesn’t have the need for one. She does. Each person should get some personal space.

My Fiance turned one of our spares into an office. That’s his kind of mancave (we both hate that term) but he is in IT and works ALOT. He needs space to shut the door and just work. Because sometimes he’s up til 3am working on an issue.  

Post # 53
6231 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

See Jane and Scott.
They are planning to get a house together.
Scott says he needs an office like his Dad.
Scott is a cashier at Target.
Scott is delusional and full of shit.

Run, Jane, RUN!

Post # 54
4823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

skier11 :  I’d dump Scott altogether.  What a twit.  He clearly has no concept of what it means to share space.   He already laid claim to the ENTIRE garage and now wants another room?  NO.  Just no.

Post # 55
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

It doesn’t seem fair for him to get the garage and the second bedroom.  If he’s truly making the garage into a man cave (TV, sofa, etc.) and it can’t be used for parking, then she should get a craft room.  Otherwise, they should just share the spare bedroom.

Post # 56
6771 posts
Busy Beekeeper

If he isn’t concerned with general relationship equity or at all concerned with her happiness now it’s not going to get any better. He’s being ridiculous. What exactly is he planning to do in this office? 

Post # 57
2528 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

He has his own space in his man cave, he can put a desk in there.

She has a legitimate business. Scott works for target, as a cashier, with 15 year olds. So yeah, until he gets a big boy job he doesn’t deserve an office in addition to a man cave. 

PS> If this were my friend i’d tell her to dump Scott’s ass, he sounds like an entitled brat, and sounds like he has nothing going for him. 

Post # 58
12227 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

No apparent ambition in life. Strike three. Selfish jerk. Strike three. Either way, he’s out. 

Post # 59
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

he shouldnt get both garage and spare room. Make the spare room into an office and call it a day. But at the same time, i can kinda see his point on wanting a room for basic sit down computer needs, depending on the layout of their house i dont think anyone would enjoy having to make a makeshift office in the bedroom or living room..


but im also not a craft person, does she really need an entire room for crafts. Im sure there is some way to make it into a computer room/work space. 

Post # 60
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I agree with all the PPs. They should share. I’m also just popping in to say how much I had the phrase “man cave” it’s so irritating to me.

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