Post # 32
skier11 : You sound like a really good friend and I hope this works out well for everyone. I remember your previous post and was worried she’d go ahead and move in with him. If I were in your shoes I’d be tempted to tell her that the next time she seeks refuge with you, she is welcome on the condition she * not* return to him. Something here needs to change – that may not be the best idea but it might spur her to action.
I don’t know what it means legally to be on the lease, but if she can get her name off the lease, that needs to be a priority.
Wishing your friend all the best.
Post # 32
Eight more months. All I would say to her. EIGHT. MORE. MONTHS.
I’d bluntly say, as well, “When do you want to go look at apartments for yourself?”
Post # 33
BalletParker : this. having a 2x/ mo houseguest without much warning can put a toll on your sanity.
jane has a choice. jane is choosing to boomerang back and forth. you have no control over jane, but you don’t have to participate in their drama in this way. if she wants to keep doing this, she can go to a hotel. being a friend, even a good friend, doesn’t mean that you don’t get to say when enough is enough. you can still talk to her on the phone, invite her over for dinner, or do whatever you normally do in your friendship.