(Closed) He proposed!

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 4
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Worker bee

Congrats! Beautiful ring!!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

congrats! Hopefully all the negativity can be put behind you. I would start by picking a season/year that you would prefer, and then look for a venue that accommodates the number of guests you want to have. once you have that, you can narrow down the feel and colors you want for the wedding, so you can start picking other details like a dress, other attire, decor, and invitations

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Congrats!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

@dreamwedding4us:  Is your date in 2014? If so, definitiely wait to get a dress! ‘Dress regret’ is a very real thing…

Start by working out a budget. Big things first – venue, ceremony, food etc. The most important advice? Enjoy it! Try not to sweat the small stuff either (It’s all small stuff in the grand scheme too!)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d say first you decide on a budget. It makes it much easier when planning. No one wants to fall in love with someone that’s budget breaking!

After that- I’d say pick a season/date and an approxamite guest list/number.

All of those things will help when you’re looking for a venue-which I would pick first. Depending on the location/season of your wedding, things might book fast!

To avoid dress regret- try on tons of dresses FISRT before you commit. Dress regret= no bueno

Oh, and high five to a fellow gemstone engagment ring bride. It’s very pretty!

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@dreamwedding4us:  think about the dress once you have your date and venue set. I started looking at dresses in November (September wedding) and was told that if I ordered it before Feb, the store wouldn’t be able to keep it for me and I’d have to take it home. I live with my Fiance, so that wasn’t an option!

So now I’m buying the dress this weekend ๐Ÿ™‚ It should arrive in June and they’ll keep it until the day before and get it all pressed for me!

Are you signed up to Pinterest? If not – get on there. it’s FULL of ideas and inspiration.

I did a blog on my budget spreadsheet which might help? http://www.weddingbee.com/2013/02/10/wedding-budget-spreadsheet/#axzz2LHM78Cw4

Eeeeeeee good luck!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Very pretty! Best wishes!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@dreamwedding4us:  What a pretty ring! Congrats!

 

The first step is budget. I’m not sure how you guys came up with your 12.5k estimate, but it might be a good idea to go over it again. ๐Ÿ™‚ There are two ways you can do this. You can either come up with your budget based on your guest list (in which case your guests are your priority, and you budget is secondary) OR you can come up with your budget based on how much money you are able to put away each month for the purpose (in which case your guest list may need to be amended to fit into your budget, and your wedding date/season follows your savings scheme)

 

For some people, they are able to choose based on their personal preferences. For me and my fiance, we knew we wouldn’t have a ton of money to throw at our wedding, so we went with the “how much can we save each month approach first, then went over our geust list second. In that way, we were able to make our VIP guests a consideration, but not going into debt for our wedding was a priority.

 

This is how we did it. I left my job in Oklahoma to move with Fi to Kansas, to follow an amazing oportunity in his field after he graduated from college. So money is pretty tight. We determined that we could save X amount each month. We knew we did not want an engagement to last more than a eyar and a half, so we used simple addition to determine what out total budget could be for each month during our engagement. My parents also offered to help, and are (coincidentally) matching our budget. While it is pretty low as far as wedding budgets go, we figured that between us and my parents, we could have a wedding in September- exactly one year after we got engaged.

 

After that, we put together our guest list. We’re only inviting extremely close friends and family. Fi is not wanting to invite all of his extended family for various reasons, so our guest list is topping out at about 70 people, which is totally reasonable! Thank god it was a number we could manage!

 

 

After we put together our budget and our guest list, we used The Knot’s and Real Simple’s budget guides and amended them to our priorities and circumstances. We compared the numbers we came up with (based on percentages of our total budget for each line item) with wedding prices in various areas, and determined the best region to host our wedding with cost as the main consideration (for example, even though we don’t live there, w’re having our wedding in Oklahoma. Everyone is havign to travel anyway, so we went with a budget friendly but beautiful lcoation)

 

So the first vendor/wedding item we decided to tackle was our venue, after we determined our budget and guest list. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

I hope that wasn’t garbled up gibberish!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Miss Jackrabbit:  +1 to Pinterest for inspiration! It can really help you get a feel for the look you want at your wedding! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@dreamwedding4us:  I think that depends on how long your engagement is going to be. I’ll probably wait a bit before going dress shopping for the same reason but we’re having a kind of longer engagemenet, 1 1/2 years or so. I’d try losing now and see how quickly you can do it =) LOVE the ring, I adore colored stone erings!! Congrats!!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@dreamwedding4us:  start dieting and working out hard now, but wait to get a dress until you have a date and a venue. You can start looking around the 1 year mark, but most dresses need 5-9 months to come in, depending on the designer. If you wedding is in 2014, you have more than enough time to lose some weight, and then order a dress. After it comes in, it can always be taken in, since you’re not going to significantly change your shape

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