- Ms. Kookie
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
I know how you feel. I was in the exact same situation. I’m in grad school and we’re living in separate cities. But you’ll find a way to make it work. And know that one day, you’ll be together for the rest of your lives makes it that much more bearable.
I am in nearly the same shape. My Fiance proposed and less than ten minutes later got on a plane to Africa. He’s been gone ever since, but our wedding is so soon that I have been incredibly busy. Busy helps a lot.
Best wishes and enjoy the planning!
Thank you to everyone for the motivating words
@Misschickenwing & ottawabride – right now, being together forever FINALLY is up in the air. Ideally, next summer we’ll be together when he’ll be done with school and begin teaching and I will begin my internship. We’re shooting to be in the same place, but with the job market as it is and only certain sites meet qualifications for internships, it may not be possible. We’re going to work every angle humanly possible to make sure it happens, though…
I feel the same way as you, my Fiance proposed to me on the last day of his leave (he’s in the Marines) and then he had to fly back to his duty station. it’s really hard, but you know that will get to spend the rest of your life together!
Wedding planning IS a fabulous distraction! It’ll eat up more time than you think. It also gives you something to look forward to, which I know for me has been really helpful. And stay busy! Happy hours with friends, movies on the weekend, distractions are key. It must be rough to be separated so soon after he proposed (we had a few months between his proposal and his departure), but stay positive by focusing on the good — that you and he are starting a wonderfully exciting new path in life, you have a wedding to plan, and that you’re going to be his WIFE! — and not the bad — that he left soon after. Good luck!
I had the same situation. I took some time before really diving into wedding planning to just enjoy being engaged, even if we couldn’t be in the same place. I found our LD engagement is not that different from our LD relationship except the dicussion of wedding plans. You have obviously done well with a LDR so use the same tactics and tools you used to deal with your situation before you were engaged.
The hardest part for me was the celebration. It was strange to go to engagement celebrations with friends and family alone. Isn’t that the one time you should have a guareenteed date? haha After those were over it was a lot easier
Ohh hunny! it was the same for me too 🙁 it was an amazing 4 day weekend everyhting was perfect then was left alone while Fiance went back to his city.. but dont worry you will be married and be together soon enough and no more missing our future hubbies.. but keep busy you have work, class, and sooo much planning to do as for me i’m stuck at work writing to you hehe and then some more planning and shopping for the wedding i havent seen my fi in a bit over a month but only 9 more days and he will be in my arms again 🙂 much love bee and i wish you the best! congrats on your engagment! 🙂
Had the same happen to me. Got engaged then spent that day and the next day together and then I had to go back home (we live in different states). The flight back home was nice. I bought me a magazine for brides and made a friend on the plane who was also getting married. It felt weird leaving him though.
Same here. Just got engaged at the airport as I was leaving town for a week – then will be back for three weks – then gone again for several months. It hurts more but it also makes it easier because I feel more secure and grounded now and know for sure we are bothc ommitted to beeing together foerver. My family and friends were happy for me and we celebrated, which was nice, although would have loved Fiance there. Also like others said, I am counting on planning to take my mind of things – got a ton of magazines and will probably be on the Bee even more now!
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