- 5 months ago
We are both in our 40s, have children from previous relationships (I am divorced/ He has never been married). We agreed to move-in together, get engaged and married in 2017. I was hesitant to move-in without getting married first because of my faith. But because I love him, I love his daughter, and my children love them, I decided after many years of living by myself to move-in with him, changed my job as well, to live in his city. However, after we moved-in together he delayed the proposal. He officially proposed 2/14/18.
As you can imagine, we say engaged!! Family and friends ask for the wedding date. Being that we’re older his mom asked about a summer wedding. He became upset and told her we haven’t spoken about it. She seemed flabbergasted and said okay.
When something comes up on shows/ movies wedding related he seems annoyed and says sarcastic remarks. But when I ask him he says that he want to get married.
Fast forward three months, I waited, he never bought up the conversation. So on 5/16, I said, that I wanted to speak about a wedding date. He got so upset and yelled at me stating phrases like, I was pressuring him, Can we just enjoy the engagement?! I responded calmly and said screaming abd shouting are inappropriate, if you don’t want to get married tell me, but don’t act like this is okay when it’s not. Two people in a relationship should be open to communicate with one another about anything. However, he kept on so I dropped it for a few days.
Then I approached again. Same thing. Gives me the screaming then the silent treatment so I told him I felt a propsal is made in order to plan a wedding. We had agreed to get engaged and married 2017. So why is it a year later your arguing about this? Silent treatment. I told him I would no longer wear the ring since we are not planning a wedding.
It’s been two weeks, I’m still not wearing my ring. He has been arguing, asking me to wear the ring but won’t speak of wedding planning. He said, he wants to marry me but won’t talk to me and disregards my feelings
What do you think, he doesn’t want to marry me?